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With how much planning you have yet to do, while trying to plan it all during this pandemic, April might be your best bet. Also, not sure of when dress shops will allow people in again, and most dresses can take over 6 months to arrive once ordered (unless bought off the rack). My wedding is July 25, 2020. We are hoping it still goes as planned. But we have almost everything done aside from getting the guys in for tuxes, along with other small things. But it is definitely stressful. It will be easiest to change your date now while you don’t have as many vendors booked. Ultimately it’s whatever you and your fiancé are most comfortable with! Hope this helps!

I'd vote April. On top of that, it is not looking like things will be in great shape for the next few months or come October anyways and even though restrictions are being lifted, it is expected that states and businesses will have to close again I think doing it in April will give you more room to breathe and actually enjoy the planning without having to worry about the "What ifs?" If it makes you feel better, we just postponed our wedding today to June 2021 and felt such a sense of relief. I really don't think people are going to want to be in large crowds and traveling until signs of a vaccine are improving.

I would say go with April 2021. So you can have much more hopes with planning and everything should be under control. However in Oct you and you FH can still have a small elope and then in April you guys celebrate.

If You Don't Want The Stress Of Planning During The Restrictions, Then Go With April.

But If You Want To Do October I See No Issue With That. Just Be Open Minded About Vendors And Their Ability To Accommodate You Right Now. Everything Can Pretty Much Be Done Via Email, phone & Video Call. Dress Wise You Might Not Be Able To Get A Dress Unless It's Off The Rack, But Ordering Online Is Always An option And I Recommend It Right Now.

I would personally wait until April. I’m getting married hopefully this October but we had our big things booked just prior to Covid. However there is a nervousness that we may not get to have our celebration come October.

You should postpone. Our wedding is on 2021 and my fiancee from time to time already panics from thinking how much she has to plan. It's very stressful and unhealthy, make sure to be on your best health on the day of the wedding to have the best experience.

I would postpone. It gives you wiggle room with booking your vendors and getting your dress. Like a PP mentioned, if you go with October, ideally, you should order your dress this week to receive it in time for alterations. My dress was estimated to take 6 months (it did come a month early).

I’m a wedding date twin with you (Oct. 23, 2020) and I would agree that with all the items left to plan and the current situation of stores being limited open, it might be best to move your date to April so you don’t have to rush or settle on just what’s available. But do what you and your fiancé feel best suits your situation. My brother put together his 120+ people wedding in less than 2 months planning so if you know what you want go for it. His was a summer outdoor early daytime ceremony at a distillery with buffet BBQ lunch and just hanging out with family/friends for reception rather than traditional dance type reception.

Yikes. You still have a lot of big items left! You could postpone to April, but has your venue already told you they will allow this? If so, I would probably postpone. Then, book a caterer and find a dress ASAP!

As others have said, I think it really depends on if you'd rather plan with significant inconvenience and keep your October date or give the world more time to get a little closer to normal. My wedding is June 20th, but I have August 1st and December 19th lined up too.

I think you have more than enough time. Think back to 5-6 months ago I bet it feels like ages ago. Thats how much more time you have to plan

I would go with April also. I think planning through this coronavirus would drive me crazy. Im the type of person who likes to get stuff done and Im sure I wouldn’t be able to during all this with vendors being shut down & not having availability and not knowing a lot. If I were you I wouldn’t rush it to make it happen in October. Take your time & resume planning once things get better. Also vendors might be giving their already booked couples (who had to postpone) priority to new dates this year.
Im really lucky that the shutdowns started happening right before my wedding date because that gave me first dibs on availability. By March my venue only had 4 available dates for 2020 and October 3rd was the first available, some of other dates were before halloween and Thanksgiving weekend (which were less ideal for me). They have 2 halls so imagine the number of couples that had to reschedule. And im lucky all my vendors had my new date available.

View Quoted Comment Thank you this helps !!

View Quoted Comment Are you going to keep oct 23? Or are you waiting until more things open? I just need all of July to plan but idk !! I probably will change to April 9

View Quoted Comment I agree with you having time! My wedding is 12-31-20 and I just found my dress today and it should get here by August! I have my Venu, which includes food/drinks, meetings via zoom for photographers and videographer tomorrow, zoom meeting with Venu/hotel people tomorrow. Phone call with decorators Friday. It just takes some Re planning since you can’t be there personally for some phone calls. I’m
Hoping by winter we can all chill out from this 🤞🏼

View Quoted Comment Fiancé and I are keeping our 10/23 date since it has special significance for us. We both agreed we’d still get married that day even if it’s just us and our parents and have to move the big party later. August is when we will our evaluate if we need to move the big celebration or not.

If its a small event I'd say wait but also be open for it being restricted. If its a lot of guests I'd say post pone and save you the stress of planning on the unknown.

I wouldn’t worry about the fact that you sent save the dates- I sent out invites and then postponed my wedding the week the rsvp’s were due. I sent new save the dates
But if you are in a state that is still shelter in place strict (like my state) you may not get the rest of your planning done by October so see how that would work before you decide

In your situation, April would probably be best UNLESS you’re very decisive and know exactly what you want, you’re flexible and good at planning. If you are, then stick with October and keep planning.


We’re scheduled for 10/10/20 and everything was booked, planned and purchased by January..... and then COVID came. So, in our situation, there’s nothing left to do besides wait and see.

I would recommend using your back up date do you have plenty time to plan and coordinate the rest of your big day! 🙂