Help me: Attention Seeking Groom’s sister.

View Quoted Comment Perhaps it's different, but I don't tolerate that stuff from my FBIL. I actually chose to elope partially bc of him bc I did not want him at our wedding. He's super disrespectful and his mommy (FMIL) coddles him mind you he's 43! He did the same thing with trying to turn his family against me lol. I have spent THOUSANDS of dollars and hours on his child who he left at FMIL house for her to raise. Never received a thsnk you from him and on top of that he pulled that stuff?! After that drama ended I told both him and his mommy that I will no longer be hugging him. Bc I refuse to hig those who try to cause me harm so don't try and that I will no longer have conversations with him outside of small talk/weather. For the past two years there's been zero issues since then!

The fact she gets whatever she wants from her parents doesn't mean you guys don't have to set strong boundaries and donnt have to put her in her place:
#1: you don't have to have anyone as a bridesmaid/bridesman in the first place, not even your own siblings. You asked her because you felt obligated and to keep the peace, it's more than enough.
You can't control the fact she's talking behind your back , however you and your man (especially him) have to tak to her FIRMLY (respectfully ... but firmly) when she judges your decisions. Sounds like you would be scared of her parents either if you try to put the sister in her place.Seriously: put you big girl pants and don't be afraid of them, especially for your weddong decisions. Being firm and saying NO is not disrepectful. Telling your fiance's parent's that they and their daughter have to mind their own business, is not disrespectful when you say it properly. You just show them you're a grown ass woman. Sounds like, about the sister , if she can't earn , say, a high school diploma or a university/college degree, she would cry,sceeam and make her parents talk to her teachers/examiners to make sure she will earn it !! She definitely missed to get a couple slaps in her face and punishment such as prohibited to go out, as a toddler ...