Hi! I need someone to tell me if I am overreacting or if I am right to feel this way.
I am the MOH for my cousin's wedding which is next year. Right now, we are in the process of ordering bridesmaid dresses and it has been the biggest headache. First, the bride said that she wants to do a mix and match with her dresses but they will be in a similar color scheme - blush and nude (so far so good). But now she is insisting that all of her bridesmaids buy the dresses through BHLDN which is a dress shop through Anthropologie (even though the same dresses can be found through other bridal shops closer to my area). She is also being very controlling about what kind of dress we choose. It can't be sequins but it has to be beaded but it can't be too plain or too sparkly or too fitted. As her MOH she also wants me to stand out (have extra sparkle, etc) so that people know I am her MOH. And it has to be whimsical and boho to match her theme.
I went to the dress shop (BHLDN) to try on dresses and found one in her color palette that I love that fits the style she is looking for. But she hates that the top is Ivory because she wants to be the only one wearing white (which I understand). I've tried to find another color for the top but they don't make it in a blush or a nude. However, it's been very hard for me to find a dress that she likes because there are so many stipulations on what I can and cannot wear. She did pick out 9 "favorite dresses" at the shop that her bridesmaids could choose from but to be honest, they all look like they would fit someone who is a size 2. I tried all of them on and nothing looks exactly right. And I want to find a dress that I love and feel comfortable in too.
She is also insisting that I have my hair and makeup done. I am more than willing to get my hair done but I can't afford to do my makeup along with all the other expenses. I have mentioned this to her before and she offered to pay but I am worried that my makeup will not look right or my face will break out in hives because of the makeup (I have very sensitive skin). With all of the other girls in her bridal party, she doesn't care if they have it done. Her words, and I quote, are, "They know what they are doing so they can book with the artists or do it on their own." So obviously that makes me feel horrible because she thinks I don't know how to do my hair and makeup.
On a different note, she wants me to plan the wedding shower and bachelorette party but the things she is suggesting is crazy expensive and too fancy. I am a 1st-year teacher right out of college and I can't afford nor have time for something like that.
I also have booked all of her bridal fittings, venues, photographer, etc. and helped her package her bridal party gifts and my mom and I have driven her to all of her bridal appointments. Which would have been fine but she never offered to pay for gas or said thank you. I don't know if I am just feeling frustrated because of all the other stuff going on or if she is just being ridiculous.
I am feeling defeated, frustrated, and overwhelmed and I'm looking for advice. Am I being crazy? Should I just suck it up and wear whatever she wants? Is she being a bridezilla or am I being a terrible MOH?
Thank you for your help!!
Kellie
