HELP!! I think I've invited too many people!

O boy! It's nice that you have so many people you want to celebrate with bit remember you also need space for all your vendors to eat. Photographer, videographers, dj, wedding planner, entertainers etc. I'd be careful just because u do have the room number restriction (fire hazard). Best of luck in your upcoming nuptials !

Yikes, that would be no good. You really have no way of knowing until you send out invites. We had about a 30% decline rate which I thought was really high. I do think the fact it's right by the holidays will effect your decline rate.

I'd guess that since it's close to a holiday that it will effect your decline rate, but make sure you have seating for your vendors.

The way we did it is we went person by person and assigned them a number. If we were almost positive that person would come we gave them a "1", if we knew that the person wouldn't come almost for sure (like they live out of country) we gave them a "0". If we were unsure we gave a 0.5. Then we added it up and got our total estimate. Unfortunately friends we thought wouldn't miss it for the world decided not to make our wedding a priority so we'll actually be below the estimate. We are only getting about 50% of our guests, but almost our entire guest list lived all over the country so it was hard for many to travel. If you are having a lot of people from out of state you're probably okay, but if not, I'd try to see if you can fit more people in somewhere else. Some people on here had all 100% rsvp yes, then there are people like me with only 50%. Know your guest list, and think hard through each of them to get an idea.

At this point, I don't think there's much you really can do. I maybe would have not sent STDs to everyone, just those on the "absolutely must invite" list, and if you get a feel for how many people aren't able to come, then see where you stand when it's time to send out invites. It might be tough for people to travel then, or they might be all for it because they already have time off from work. Best of luck.

Your wedding isn't until January...I would assume you didn't send out invitations yet. Did you send out Save the Dates? If not, sit down, bite the bullet and start crossing people off.

If you already sent STDs to 255 people, you're kinda screwed because you can't take that back... you just have to hope for a high decline rate. Winter and a holiday will probably help, but it more or less boils down to who is on your guest list. Our guest list was almost entirely local people and didn't have weather or holidays, and 65% of those invited attended. I've always heard that a good rule of thumb is to figure on 2/3 attendance, which we almost nailed. Using that number, you'd be under 200, so you might be ok. Just make sure that you do not add anyone to your list!

This is not good but there isn't much you can do right now. STD = they must get an invitation. You need to hope that at least 55 people decline when invites go out. There is no "standard" decline rate - every wedding is different. It was just a terrible decision to send STDs to that many people.

If you've already sent STDS to everyone, you're kind of committed to inviting them all. It would be extremely rude to not send a formal invitation, after they've already received a save-the-date. I know hindsight is 20/20, but you should have never invited more people than you venue can hold. Always plan for 100% attendance. You have two options: find a new venue that can accommodate everyone. Or cross you fingers and pray 55 people decline. There's really nothing else you can do at this point.

Since STDs were already sent out I think you have no choice but to send invites to all those people, wishing you 55 declines!

Don't worry, from what I've heard and experienced you will get the majority of your declines very last.

Ooh...just saw that you did say you sent out STDs. If I were you, then I would start looking for a new venue...55 people is A LOT of declines to be waiting on. Do you really want the venue to kick you out because you're over capacity on your wedding day?

One more reason I hate STD's......now you're stuck. I did a wedding last January 3d, and I can tell you that the count they had was dead on to the count they gave me when we started.

I'd start pissing people off, lol.....

Maybe you can just count out plus ones? I know that sounds rude but if the head count included singles with plus ones you don't have to allow them to bring guests...even though it's considered a faux pas. In your case it might be necessary

I agree with Celia about skipping STDs unless its an out of country DW...andnthis is exactly why. The only option you have now is skippinf plus ones, and or kids.

How much of your guest list is out of town?

I invited 115 and only 75 showed up so you may ge lucky!

Yikes. Hello fellow January bride! I am so excited to start seeing more of us on here!

Do you have a lot of OOT guests? or guests with kids? You could always cut out kids if you have them and send the invites to parents only..that wouldn't cut you out 55 people but it would help reduce the number and get you closer to your goal.

Everyone who got a save the date needs to get an invite. It's kind of your own fault, no offense. You should always always always plan as if everyone you invited shows up. If you didn't send a STD to everyone then you need to start cutting people off the list.

Yikes. I was told not to worry too because so many people decline. Our venue holds 250 and I was petrified inviting 254, knowing about 20 people would not be coming. I still didn't feel comfortable inviting more because there was always the "what if they come".

I would cut out kids and plus 1. You can't not invite someone when you already sent a STD.