HELP - I MESSED UP A MONOGRAM!

On a traditional monogram---your last initial (not middle as you said above) goes in the middle....

for example:

Jane Susan Doe

JDS---and typically the D would be larger than the other initials.

Is this what you did?

Personally-unless he is into monogramed items, I'd probably just go with what you have, I mean if you didn't set it up as a monogram, then they are still his initials in order... The only reason i'd maybe reconsider is if his middle initial is highlighted significantly depending on the style..

I agree with, @APZ. Traditionally the last initial is in the middle, and larger than the other initials. The center of a circle is the largest part, and therefore that's where the most important initial goes. I will admit I always found it odd though, since it obviously shifts around the order of the initials.

I agree that just going with what you have is probably the best option.

Yep. Agreed with PPs. Last initial is in the center.

cCt would be correct if his last name was C.

Honestly I would just leave it the way it is, I highly doubt anyone is going to notice except yourself, FH and MIL

Yes! That is what I meant to say, I did not know the last name went in the middle and ordered it just as his initials! I had no clue... The people saying leave it, thank you! You are making me feel better. I know alone it's not the end of the world, but my fiance's family is very proper and took etiquette classes and so far I have bungled many many etiquette related things with the wedding (I didn't know formal addressing was a thing, I didn't include parent's names on the invitation, a couple other things and probably more things I am unaware of...) so I am feeling extra nervous about further miss-steps....

I would leave it. I honestly couldn't imagine your FH being bothered by it!

LOL @Katie ... too funny How I'm feeling right now is "FML" haha

It is a true circular monogram so the T is bigger but the others round right up to it...

I punched in CCT on the website I bought the links just to see and also don't love the way that looks... maybe I can play this off as an aesthetic choice!

Traditionally male monograms are listed FML so even with the circle monogram I would think that is correct.

I'd honestly just leave it.

I'd just leave it. No worries!

Whenever my fiancé monograms anything he keeps his initials in first,middle,last order because he prefers them that way. I really don't think it matters, I wouldn't mind at all!!

Just say it's your personal touch!

Who is going to be looking real close at his cufflinks to tell him it's wrong. I say leave it and keep it moving. It's the thought that counts and you didn't know I'm sure he will love it anyway.

Tradiationally, the female's is Jane Marie Smith (jSm) & the male's is John Doe Smith (JDS).

Thanks everyone! I decided I will give them to him as is & if he wants new ones I will do that but i think he will be fine with it.

I'd let it go. In my experience men couldn't care less.

I just read that male monograms stay the same.. First, Middle, Last. Its female monograms that change to First, Last, Middle. So no worries!!

I'd give them to it, and tell him you made a booboo and you didn't know. My FH and I would be seriously laughing about it. You'll never live it down, but it will be such a funny story "before we were married, I ordered the wrong cufflinks". Things are fun before you get married, and after because you'll make mistakes, so I'd just tell him "oopsies" and you guys can laugh about it when you're 80. I wouldn't worry about the MIL (although she will probably side eye you, but it's not really any of her business) . I couldn't justify spending that kind of money twice just for the sake of it being "right" because I made a mistake. Your FH loves you, and even though they aren't right, he will probably still love them, because his NOW wife got them for him.

GIRL. I ordered 8 bridesmaids robes like that! i literally had no idea that a monogram went first, last, middle. i've never had anything monogrammed for myself before so it never occurred to me. I just thought it would be how your initials usually go, firstmiddlelast. I decided to just give them to them anyway and not one of them said anything. whether they noticed or were just as clueless as me they were just appreciative of the gifts and loved the robes regardless.

Maybe you could resell them online?