Help! Groomsman won't wear wedding party dress code

Sounds like something my brother would do. I agree with the bride and OP. The groomsman is completely in the wrong and needs to get the correct suit.

F that bridezilla talk.

If he does end up acquiring the right color I could only imagine what the pictures are going to look like, sounds like a buzzkill.

The groom should be handling this situation, no question. He needs to step up and support his FW.

That's literally all they have to do is get matching attire. If he chooses to not do so then he's choosing not to be in the wedding party

Ugh. Why are people so obnoxious! Anyone being asked to participate in a wedding party should expect to wear the colors assigned by the bride and groom. Definitely not bridezilla! FH should be dealing with this.

That's not being a bridezilla. The only job you have in a bridal party is to wear what's required. Her FH needs to grow a pair deal with this imo

Asking for specific colors is absolutely normal and the brother is being childish.

Your best friend is not a bridezilla. As others have said, your only job as an attendant is to show up, reasonably sober, in the designated attire. She is being treated terribly by her FH. He needs to stand up to his family. She needs to think long and hard about what married life will be if FH does not stick up for her.

The groom is going to have to address this. He is the only one that can really make decisions or talk to his brother. I think at most, bride could request groom solve the problem. I don't think there is much the bride can do. That really sucks.

He's in the wrong, but it's also not your concern. Don't get involved.

Offering to pay and he's still against it? Ugh!

I disagree Blair Waldorf. That's your opinion. But it's really not worth getting upset over- this is not the bride's problem. But is this something you want to spend time stressing over?

That's crazy! He either needs to follow suit or he should be asked to leave the bridal party and attend as a guest. The wedding party is supposed to match and the MIL is way out of line.

The groom needs to talk to him and lay down the expectations

If my FH called me a bridezilla there would be a few choice words exchanged...

Honestly how hard is it to wear a grey suit for the wedding?

@cassidy, then what is the purpose of asking their budget and choosing attire together, if it's bridezilla and controlling to have set colors??

He's being a stubborn ass. I think he just want's to piss the bride off.

This is between the groom and his brother, but yea he needs to stop being a diva and wear the gray suit. Period. HE is creating drama where there shouldn't be any.

That's rather unusual that he's refusing to wear the color you would like, even after you've offered to pay for it. Literally the only job of a groomsmen is to wear the attire the groom and bride choose, and given that you offered to pay for the gray suit is a bonus. Is navy his favorite color or something?

Has your groom addressed him with this? At this point, if he insists on wearing a navy suit he can just attend as a guest in a navy suit. Groomsmen in your wedding wear gray.

This is ridiculous. Literally their only job is to buy the proper attire and stand beside the bride and groom. It bothers me that the groom isn't sticking up for the bride's very reasonable wishes here.

Your friend is not being a bridezilla. The groom is being awful to his soon to be wife by name calling and not backing her up, especially because he's hanging up on her with his mom.

If this were me as the bride, I'd be telling the groomsman that I understood that he didn't want to buy a new suit and that I look forward to him attending as a guest. The ONLY thing you need to do as a member of the wedding party is to get the correct attire. Doesn't matter if you are family or not, if you can't get the attire for whatever reason (money, don't like the color, just being an asshole), then you're a guest.