Help! Groomsman won't wear wedding party dress code

What has the groom said about this?

Does gray make his ass look fat?

Yeah, he needs to suck it up or else be a guest at the wedding.

ETA: clarification

Bride shouldn't be involved at all. It's the groom's brother and the groom's attendant. If he doesn't care, she needs to let it go.

However, if the groom is calling the bride crazy, maybe it's time to rethink that marriage.

I think it is absolutely controlling to control what people wear. Even the wedding party. Focus on the important things. This is not one of them.

Thanks for the feedback all. The groom originally agreed on gray, they made the decision together. It was only when the brother/groomsman said he was wearing blue that the groom threw his hands up and said he didn't want to deal with it. It seems unfair that everyone else went out and bought the appropriate attire, but the one groomsman gets to wear whatever he wants just because he wants to be a brat about it.

Why did he buy navy? Did he not know what color to buy? If he knew he needed gray before buying navy, this is all on him and I would just be blunt and say listen dude you are in the wrong here. Either change it or you're not gonna be in it.

Cassidy it's not really that controlling. When you agree to be in someone's wedding, literally, the only thing you have to do is wear what the bride or groom says as Long as it is in budget.

Literally the only job of the wedding party, GM or Bridesmaid is to show up in the agreed upon attire that the bride and groom ask for. He's totally in the wrong here, and the MOG seems a little extreme in calling the bride a bridezilla for making one request on attire. And why is the groom not stepping in on this? The GM here is in the wrong here and HE needs to fix this. HE needs to get the right color suit, especially since the bride and groom are offering to pay for it for him. He sounds very childish and selfish.

If they are offering to pay, there is legitimately no excuse for this groomsman to not wear gray. If I were the bride and groom I would say you can wear gray or attend as a guest. Period end of story.

It's their party and their day to decide color scheme. If he wants to attend in Navy it's not his wedding party to decide. Especially if someone else is willing to buy the right color... Come on. He's being selfish about it. Not his day.

He could be doing it deliberately in a sibling rivalry type of deal. Some siblings have to steal the show...

Was the color originally blue and the bride and groom then changed to gray?

I have a feeling this major pain in the butt is going to ultimately be a guest.

From what's been posted, it sounds like he's just being a major pain for shits and giggles.

@FutureMrsCohen: It's the groom, as well as his mother, calling the bride crazy and a bridezilla. That's the red flag for me. If the groom had merely said, "I'm sorry, he's family, and that's more important to me than the color of his suit," that would be one thing. I'd say it was his family, his attendant, and his choice. But calling the bride crazy and a bridezilla crosses the line for me.

@2ndBride I agree 100%. My question was why isn't the groom stepping in and correcting his brother and telling him, " all GM are wearing grey and if you can't agree to that, you will attend as a guest."

I think he needs to suck it up and wear the gray. Most posters here always say the only job of the bridal party is to get the attire and show up, well if that's his only job then he isn't doing it. I think she is absolutely not a bridezilla.

Agreeing to be in a wedding gives you ONE JOB. That brother/groomsman failed.

Only job is wear what is asked of you within reason grey vs navy is within reason

It'd be different if the bride was telling the men to wear dresses or something totally abnormal for an average guy. But a certain color is not a difficult request.

Although the groom should take care of this. Not the bride.

Yeah no sorry. His ass would be out of the bridal party so fast his head would spin. That's literally his only job. He's being a dick. Sorry.

Which is more important, that this important person stand up for you on your wedding day, or that he wear a specific color?

He is being a stubborn dick. If folks are offering to help him but a gray suit and he is just refusing then he is just being a jerk.