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Aidan (Mrs. Cowgell!)
VIP July 2012

Help for a friend - outdoor Catholic wedding

Aidan (Mrs. Cowgell!), on December 30, 2012 at 8:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

So, some of you may remember a couple of weeks ago, I posted about knowing about an impending proposal for a friend. Well, it was one of my BM's (her FH was a GM, they caught the bouquet and garter), and she said yes and it was awesome. Today I went with her to her first bridal show. The thing she is the most stuck on is really, really wanting an outdoor wedding but also really, really wanting a Catholic ceremony (sans-mass). She mentioned it's possible if she can find someplace with consecrated ground. I don't know much about all this, but I'm determined to help as much as I can. So, advice on this? And if anyone knows of someplace in the Louisville or Lexington, Ky areas that could work, please let me know!

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Latest activity by Carole M (a.k.a "old tart"), on December 31, 2012 at 1:03 PM
  • ForeverMyLove
    Master December 2014
    ForeverMyLove ·
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    I think her best bet would be to speak with someone in the Catholic Church to help find consecrated ground.

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  • IrishLove™
    Master October 2013
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    I am catholic, and I have never heard of a Catholic being married outside... In fact I'm pretty sure it is unheard of. And I don't think priest can marry outside of the church. Only a bishop can give the yes for a Catholic to be married outside by a priest or deacon. She may want to do more research on this.

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  • Courtney
    Super November 2013
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    I agree with ^^^^

    The Catholic Church can be extremely strict about weddings. Tell her not to be surprised and/or disappointed if it doesn't work out.

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  • Aidan (Mrs. Cowgell!)
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    Aidan (Mrs. Cowgell!) ·
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    I will pass that on, thanks.

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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
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    Catholics believe the church is a true house of God. Therefore, all sacraments are to be celebrated in the church. Without going into philosophy of religion, basically it's an act of humility and faith to go TO God's house to get married. Of course she may try and ask, but I really, really don't think she is going to find a priest to marry her anywhere else. I am catholic and have never seen or heard of another catholic being married anywhere else.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    The only time I've heard of a Catholic wedding outside of a church was in an emergency situation--e.g., having the wedding at a hospital because one of the parties was dying.

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  • Monique  Wilber
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    A friend of mine had a "catholic" wedding outdoors by a rogue catholic priest. He was no longer with any parish, but he performed a "catholic" wedding sans the mass.

    Unless the parish is very liberal (most are not), you can only get married in the church building. My dh and I went with the understanding, very nice rabbi (and got married on the hotel patio) instead of going with my childhood church's option of getting married in the rectory (because my dh is jewish and the church wouldn't allow us to marry in the church - and they had a cow about my suggestion of having the rabbi co-officiate).

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  • MJ
    Master June 2013
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    Catholic marriges are performed in the church. If there is a wedding outside it is not recognized by the church. If it was we would be having a wedding in the woods.

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  • Karen
    Super May 2013
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    I think the only exception to an in-church ceremony that I've ever heard of is if it is in someone's house. I don't even know if the backyard would work.

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    Great answers from everyone. I am certified to teach religion(Catholic). Under normal circumstances, when both partners are Catholic even a ceremony only(no Mass) can't be done outside of the Church. There are examples(such as the rogue priest).

    I have heard of cases in which there was a good reason(like 2D mentioned) where the local Archbishop of the diocese in question granted permission. Also this website sites Canon Law which may give a glimmer of hope.... http://catholicexchange.com/does-a-catholic-wedding-have-to-be-held-in-a-catholic-church/

    However, while not impossible, I highly doubt it would be approved.

    Good luck!

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