Help! family getting married weeks apart

I don't think it really matters who has been dating longer to be honest. I would say talk to them and if you have your heart set on a fall wedding do it in September of next year depending on their date in October or wait until October 2017.

Lol @spazzytazi I thought the same thing. I was like, "ewwww..." until I opened the thread. @Amanda, just talk to them and see how you all feel about having your wedding close together. People have done it, it wouldn't be the end of the world. Also, you could have your wedding in September or November and it would still be a fall wedding.

Updated the title thanks! Yea I would never say hey ruined my plans because they didn't at all. They have family that lives out of state so I feel horrible making them travel multiple times in a short time. Also, I don't want to seem like I'm taking away from her day.

Does it bother your FH? If I were you... I'd stay out of it. You don't want to go into a marriage with bad blood, and no... It doesn't matter how long you were dating before you got engaged. If their date is set, leave it alone and be happy for them.

I tend to avoid conflict. I would check out venues and if you will have a church ceremony check with the church on their availability before having FH say anything to FSIL. Who knows maybe your venue and or church won't have any dates you want available. Then you would have said something to FSIL and possibly created unnecessary stress.

Can you wait until fall 2017? It'd give you more time to plan & save. Have they actually booked anything yet? If not, maybe they aren't sure and you can ask if they are sure, plans may change if they haven't looked at costs yet. I understand not wanting to make the family travel two weekend close together, but maybe Sept or Nov would be far enough apart?

His take is that we shouldn't plan our days around each other and everyone should just do what makes them happy. I've been close with his family and sister for over 10 years so I'm not worried about bad blood I just don't want to hurt feelings so I'm so unsure about how to approach it. Work plans on moving me to a new state In February 2017 and all my family is here so I really want to get married before we have to move... Which would be next fall or early winter. Maybe that's how I open the conversation. I'm open to mid November so it would put us about 6 weeks apart.

I'm with your fiance. Do what makes you happy. Many people go to weddings a month or two apart. Your not taking anything from anybody. People have their day, not a month or a year.

6 weeks apart is plenty of time! I think you should be fine planning a November wedding.

Thanks everyone! Taking a step back I was/am obviously a little sore about them getting engaged before me but it is completely irrelevant. I love his sister which is why Im glad I asked for advice. I want to plan it so that everyone is happy. This was helpful

My cousin is getting married 6 weeks after I am, which I know isn't the same as a sibling. Our mothers are planning the others' daughter's shower, though, and the guest list has a huge amount of overlap. If you wind up planning for November you should be absolutely fine!

My cousins just got married exactly a month apart one at the beginning of Sept and the other beginning of October and I'm getting married 4 months later. None of us cared they were so close together! So I think if as long as you put at least a week in-between you should be good!

Just keep the conversation open and honest with your FBIL and FSIL. I think you can totally plan a September or November wedding but without communication, it's easy for one of you to end up with hurt feelings. Have separate showers and separate bachelorette parties. Every bride is different so odds are your weddings will be completely different. I would also keep the details of your wedding on the down-low to so as not to end up with similar things, but that depends on your FSIL's style and personality.