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Samantha
Beginner September 2017

Help! Bridesmaid dropped out!

Samantha, on May 13, 2017 at 1:57 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 29

Hi ladies, I really need some advice on this. Yesterday one of my 7 bridesmaids told me she couldn't be in the wedding anymore due to some personal problems. I tried everything I could to help her out, but now I'm down one bridesmaid. Is it acceptable to then ask someone else to step in? Has this happened to any of you? Just not sure what to do next, especially since I bought all the BM gifts and dresses are getting ordered.

29 Comments

Latest activity by JDSquared, on May 15, 2017 at 10:01 AM
  • Jessica
    Super October 2017
    Jessica ·
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    So sorry this has happened! It's perfectly acceptable to have uneven numbers. I do. I have 2 guys walking with 1 girl

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  • Samantha
    Beginner September 2017
    Samantha ·
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    Okay I didn't know if it would be awkward to have it uneven!

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  • MMB
    Master January 2017
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    Not awkward at all! I would keep it as is.

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    It's fine to have uneven parties! Relationships don't come in matched pairs, do they? Please don't ask someone to step in, that would be hurtful to them to be "second choice". Remember these are people, not props for the wedding. It's easy to get lost in "wedding brain" and forget that these are your nearest and dearest. Let your BM know that she is welcome to attend as a guest, and that the door is open should she be able to get the dress/time to walk in the wedding party.

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  • FMR2018
    Master October 2018
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    1 BM walks with 2GM. Problem solved. Focus on your friend.

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    One other quick thing, Samantha, it would be great for you to have an avatar photo so we can tell you apart from all the other double ring avatars! Contact admin if you're having trouble doing that.

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  • CaboBride2018
    VIP May 2018
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    I would keep everything as is. Uneven numbers are fine and honestly 1 less BM won't be noticeable

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
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    It can just be uneven. Not a big deal at all especially silly with the number in your wedding party. Can you cancel her dress order? I had a BM(my cousin) drop out because she has anxiety about being up in front of people. She has very los self esteem. I decided to ask a friend but it was months ago and nobody felt like an afterthought. I decided to still give my cousin her BM gift and she'll have her makeup done with us. Even though she's no longer officially a BM I still consider her part of the wedding.

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  • Celia Milton
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    It's fine. Leave it the way it is; many of my parties are uneven!

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  • Sara
    Master April 2017
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    Have uneven numbers dont replace anyone

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  • Jess
    Super October 2017
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    We're having 2 BM and 3 GM so they don't have to be even

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  • Amanda
    Expert September 2017
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    My cousin step down as a bridesmaids based on her Financial situation and she lives in Cali and flying back and forward to NY would be a lot and even though she had her dress too. However I understand her reasoning so we have uneven bridal party but we are making it work

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  • ShanynL
    VIP September 2017
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    Uneven sides are fine!

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  • Bee
    Master April 2017
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    We had an uneven party and it was just fine. Don't replace her.

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  • Mrs. Koalajetski
    Super May 2017
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    I feel it is acceptable just be sure to let her know that it's not because you don't want her there. My MOH lives in AZ and due to financial problems had to drop out. I had already purchased her dress and was panicking until my cousin stepped in and said she'd be happy to take her spot but I didn't want to upset my MOH and make her feel expendable. So her and I had a conversation and she told me that she understood the situation and asked if we could do a face time during dinner so she could still give her speech that way it's a win win. So for something like this just talk to your BM and get her thoughts on this. More than likely she'll be ok with having someone step in.

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  • Christina
    VIP September 2017
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    Leave it as is. Odd numbers are fine. If you do ask someone else, they would find out they were a back up and that's very hurtful.

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  • Carissa Brittney
    Super July 2017
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    No. That's like B-listing your BMs. It's okay for it to be uneven.

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  • Larry
    Expert November 2018
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    Do you have a relative that would understand the situation and would step in?

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  • Beachy
    VIP November 2017
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    Let it be uneven.

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  • Jessica
    Super November 2017
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    Leave it be! It's totally fine to be uneven. We have 5 BM and 7 GM!

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