Hell on buzzfeed. Hell no.

Yes to everything Bookcase said.

Another "yes" for what Bookcase said. Very poignant!

You ladies have already covered it.

I can't stand when people lump an entire generation into one statement.

Millennials are entitled. Baby Boomers Ruined the Economy. Gen Xers are lazy.

Blah blah fucking blah.

Every single solitary generation since the beginning of time has hard workers, entitled assholes, and lazy folks.

I think the Millennials are getting a bad rep right now because we have social media and teh interwebs now, so people (of all generations) have the ability to publicly post gofundmes and stuff like that. But I know MANY millennials (I'm not one myself...36 here!) who are out there working their butts off who would never dream of asking for a handout or anything like this. I happen to know an almost 40 year old woman who does a gofundme every year to help pay for Christmas presents for her kids instead of getting a job. Entitled much?

Honeyfunds are tacky.

Huge sweeping generalizations about all of the people in one generation is ridiculous, and wrong.

Who cares if someone wants to set up a honey fund?? Realistically, you're not even supposed to ask for a gift at all, which is why every bridal article will tell you to absolutely not put your registry info on your invites or in your enclosures. Should you put it on your wedding website, yes, but what if you don't want to do a website? If a bride has a registry, I will buy a gift off that site. If they have a honey fund, I will donate just the same, because I would rather them enjoy my gift and give them exactly what they wanted instead of them returning it or possibly never even using it. And also realistically speaking, what's tacky is not having an open bar. Asking your guests to pay for anything at your wedding while they're being hosted, is tacky! So buy some damn drinks for your guests who made the trip out, maybe took the day off or spent money to be there! And if you want to set up a Honeyfund that will allow them to donate however much money they choose to, then so be it! Who cares! Stop being so damn judgy about what's "proper etiquette" because you may not know the whole reasoning behind a couple setting up a honey fund and just be generous! People are there to celebrate the love between the marrying couple and if they were true friends or family that truly wanted all the happiness in the world for them, they would be more than happy to donate in their possibly once in a lifetime experience. And if those people who look at their honey fund call it tacky, then they shouldn't even be there.

Another millennial here, who also thinks Honeyfunds are tacky af. People give you buckets of money for your wedding anyway, so just use that for your honeymoon with the added bonus of not being rude and not telling people what to do.

I would love to go on a super fancy honeymoon with my FH. We're going to go on a trip we can afford, and pay for it our damn selves.

Elysia, wouldn't you rather that they receive the full cash value of what you are donating and not just 97%? Cuz that's what honeyfunds take. It's a racket.

@Elysia

I mean that could be a point if you want to haggle over 3% but if people aren't Internet savvy they will still probably give you a check instead.

Our honeymoon has already been paid for in advance so fortunately we don't have this problem. But I do know people that have set one up and personally I think the idea is genius! There are so many go fund me pages for anything and everything these days and if there are people either dumb enough or generous enough to donate, then why stand in the way of that!?

Again people set up these accounts for many different reasons. Sometimes people can't afford their honeymoon's because they do want an absolutely beautiful wedding to share with their family and friends and would rather provide a wonderful day and night for their guests to share with them and spend money on them rather than themselves.

There are some people in this world that will probably never be able to afford a beautiful trip in their lives so why not give them a once-in-a-lifetime experience with the one that they love?

And there are just some people in this world that want to be a part of something. And donating some cash towards an experience for two people that you love and be able to be a part of that, then why not?

And if someone is going to cry over 3% then they shouldn't be having a wedding or anything else for that matter that they can't afford to begin with. PayPal takes 3% yet millions of people in this world use it for many different reasons!

Will honey fund start becoming mainstream? Of course it will! As it has been for quite a few years now. Honey fund is absolutely nothing new. Just as much as any other tech savvy trend has came and stayed this is no different. But this is actually for a sweet purpose, if you're positive and see it that way. A positive person will see it as helping out a couple they love for an experience they are specifically requesting and any negative troll will see it as a tacky lazy person asking for a handout. At the end of the day it's the exact same result; a guest is giving a couple something out of their pocket in return for attending their wedding. Whether it's in a form of a blender, a check or a donation towards a website that they set up for a particular trip it's basically all the same.

I used to think honeyfund type things gave you an actual voucher, like two tickets for the scuba diving excursion on your cruise. And didn't realize they took a cut (duh, capitalism). It seemed sort of cool. But even if it did work that way, it's fundamentally against what wedding gift tradition is meant to be, which is 3,000 years of human history of communities gathering to help a new couple start or improve a household. Yes, I've lived with FH for two years and we each lived alone as adults for some ten years before that so we own every kitchen gadget imaginable, but this is our chance to go from the cheapo junk you buy and get handed down at age 20 to the nice quality cookware that won't burn the bottoms of your cookies and get towels that aren't threadbare. If we get cash we might spend it on registry items and might spend it on our honeymoon, who knows, but everyone can always use some household things and that is what weddings are supposed to be about, making a home together.

Articles like this that promote Honeyfunds is why so many people are open to the idea. I think its super tacky your flat out asking for money!!! I see a lot of people comparing it to registries saying well your flat out asking for gifts. NO!!! People will either bring a gift or give you an envelope of cash/check, I view a registry as a guide to your taste what you need so a guest has a good idea of what to get you and their not left in limbo wondering what to get, will you like it, will it go to waste etc. or they can just skip it (like I do) and give you cash/checks. But to flat out ask for money or flat out ask for a gift is rude af!

I'm turning 27 and had a job since I was 14 and once I hit 16 my parents starting charging me "rent" to teach me responsibility . My dad put it all in savings account for me and gave it back when I moved out at 19. So the thought of me saying I really want to go on this fancy honeymoon can you help me pay for it because I'm getting married is just absurd. I might as well set up a go fund me saying I really want to buy this big fancy house can you help me pay for it bc I'm getting married, hey why stop there, I really want to get my master's degree can you help me pay for it too?

Do you see how that sounds??! Ridiculous

I'm fine with the idea. If someone buys me sheets, they used cash to buy those sheets, and they don't get to sleep on them, so this seems like an unnecessarily attack on shifting norms. Years ago the father of the bride was expected to pay for everything - did everyone wring their hands and start complaining about the generation that started to cease that? Is this the same kind of thing and everyone is hidebound and locked into constructs about what is or isn't proper?

I'm not paying for someone else going on a vacation that I can't afford myself.

Elysia thanks for pointing out that you're pretty petty.

ETA: pretty tipsy right now so spelling is meh. Damn you zoo margarita.

DID SOMEONE SAY HONEYFUND?!

There once was a bride with no money

But she wanted to go somewhere sunny!

She acted like an ass

And requested just cash!

And all her guests thought that was just c****.

@Elysia

Yasssssss Bea

Bea, that poem is my favorite thing on this forum. Glad to see it didn't get flagged this time.

@AlmostBach - oh give it time. Although this time I made sure to make it VERY clear that no one is calling a person an ass or a cunt, and also I starred out the last word so the special snowflakes don't get anally agitated over a "bad word."

Ok it is hurtful to see millennial-bashing on here. But agreeing with several others on this thread, many of us (myself included) already live with their fiancées and don't need the household items. Sure it's nice to have a matching set of plates or whatever, but they/I don't need a whole registry full of frivolous items which we already own. That is why honey funds are becoming more prevent. Also, remember that most are in crippling student loan debt. But overall, I suppose we see it as, instead of spending money on crap we don't need, please put it towards something we'd rather have

I lived with H for 3 years and still registered

How do you not have anything that needs upgrading?!

Millennial checking in. I've had a job since I was 14 and currently work along with FH to support ourselves and this open bar...I mean wedding. That being said...I don't really see the difference between a honeyfund and a registry. They are both asking for gifts. Sorry not sorry!

We aren't registered because I don't need another place setting or matching cups. If people ask, we are requesting a wishing well donation. All funds will go towards our house downpayment.