Hell on buzzfeed. Hell no.

I just received a wedding invitation and they have a honeyfund set up. They will get a check from me.

Honeyfunds take a percentage so just give cash/check instead.

Julia to sound entitled just because you expect most of your guests to bring $150 or more to your wedding. A gift is a gift. Honeyfunds don't allow you to actually purchase something for a guest nor does it have to go to their honeymoon.

Should we make a gofundme page to pay for the wedding too?

I don't get it. FH and I originally (before WW) thought for a brief second of doing this. Yes, I thank the lord above that I decided to join here because you guys have made me come to my senses on this. While we were like "yay we like money" we are now totally excited to start our registry. Like how fun is it to go into a store and scan the shit out of stuff you want? Way more exciting to receive a present (that you asked for!) than to get a check imo. Like these are gifts, that you ASKED FOR! I don't believe for a second when someone says "we have everything we need." Guarantee you start a registry and things will pop up that you want.

ETA: I am a millennial (24) and I have been working since I was 15, I have never asked for help from anyone. I moved out when I was 18 and am currently working my way out of small debt. FH and I bust our asses to afford everything we have. We are paying for this whole wedding ourselves. We are not entitled one bit. Don't generalize. Give people who have set up honeyfunds the benefit of doubt that they are not aware (because of sites like Buzzfeed) that this is tacky.

Beatrice, perhaps I should clarify. I live in the Chicago area where everything is more expensive. So $150 to $200 is just a common amount brought to the the wedding as everything around here costs more, especially weddings. It is not expected by me or any other couple that I know who has gotten married in the last few years. I am very well aware that it is not the same everywhere and the amount would be less in different cities.

I guess what I meant to say is I'm sure there are young couples that don't have great jobs and might benefit more from cash or a honeyfund than items that they might not use much.

I am Gen X but I am friends with Boomers and Millenials. My best Boomer friend will occasionally turn to me and say, "sorry we fucked it up for you guys". It's not Millenials that are entitled, I would say Boomers are way more entitled than Millenials, after all the Boomers became the Me generation, who became Yuppies. The Millenials are doing the best they can with the leftovers and personally as the generation who is in the middle and watches from the sidelines, I think they are doing a great job.

Sorry, Honeyfunds suck. It doesn't matter what generation you are from.

FutureMrsPerk, while I am also a Millenial, and I do agree that entitlement has gotten out of hand, you need to take a look at yourself and your generation to see that entitlement is prevalent no matter what the age. You seriously have a ton of growing up to do.

If you think millennials are entitled, please ask yourself how they got that way. Did it manifest magically out of thin air just because of the internet and cell phones?

Someone had to raise them.

FYI I am 26, a millennial, and got everything I have because of the work ethic my father instilled in me.

Agreeing with @MrsSass. It's funny, you read news articles about juveniles getting in trouble and people are always saying "where are the parents" or "the parent's taught them this".

Kids learn from their parents. So if someone's kid grew up to be an entitled brat, you really need to take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself who had a strong hand in that developed attitude.

I just turned 24, so I should be one of the most entitled people on this thread. Lucky for me, my parents wanted me to understand value and good manners. Honeyfunds are tacky. No "but" or "well so-and-so" or any of that other crap to change it. You want cash? Small registry, and wait to see if someone is KIND enough to give you check/cash. Don't guilt people into handing it to you.

I'm a millennial technically. Honeyfunds are usually done by millennials. Trust me, I've seen millennials complain about not having money then going to Bora Bora for a week because they can and their parents pay for it. Most people I knew in college were also having their rent paid for by their parents. I moved out and paid my way.

Every single generation going back to the beginning of time has complained about how the new generation is lazy and entitled. It's bullshit. Honeyfunds aren't new; people have been looking for ways to ask for $$$ forever. The internet just provides a new vehicle for rudeness. The rudeness has always existed.

Most demographers define millennials as anyone who was between 18-34 years old in 2015 (so, born after 1981), which probably includes a vast majority of people on this site. So I'd be careful throwing around broad generalizations about how entitled millennials are.

^^^^ Yes @Bookcase!

I honestly don't have a problem with honeyfund myself would I have one NO would I donate to someone else's probably not only because I don't like the fact that they take fees. I would personally rather give you $100 and you get $100 versus I give you $100 and you get $90 $95 but thats just me

I'm a millennial who managed to get a law degree at the age of 23 and have been supporting myself since I was 20. I'm so entitled, Oprah gave me her bank account. You can't just find something u don't like and blame a whole generation. Honeyfund is tacky period and I know non millenials that think it's ok.

What bookcase said.

@Alyssa YES THANK YOU.

Repeating that because it's important:

Millennials are the ones doing the honeyfunds because millennials are the ones getting married right now

Millennials are the ones doing the honeyfunds because millennials are the ones getting married right now

Millennials are the ones doing the honeyfunds because millennials are the ones getting married right now

You damn Millennials and your logic.

It drives me crazy when everyone says that my generation is entitled. No one thinks that way. When all these social media, wedding websites, and other media sites keep promoting these honey funds, of course we are going to think it is normal and acceptable... I didnt think it was bad until you guys said something and explained it. But i am not having a honey moon as we cannot afford one.

Whoa I'm a millennial????? YIPPIE!!!! *Insert eye roll here* Bookcase said it best. It is the personality. So annoying when someone generalizes.