Heartbroken Bride

I can 100% relate to how you feel. Our wedding was supposed to be April 25 and has been postponed. I can't imagine how awful it must be to have to cancel so close to your date. I don't think you are being selfish and ungrateful at all. I and so many others here are feeling the exact same way. Such a pet peeve of mine has been people saying I'm being ungrateful, or waving it off like it's not big deal saying it's for our health, or I'm not the only one going through this, that's not helpful at all. It is a horrible feeling to get so close to something you have planned for so long, probably the biggest and most important event you will ever plan in your life, and have it ruined due to things you have no control over. I'm trying to focus on the positive as much as I can, we will still have a beautiful day, we still get to marry each other, etc. But it is definitely no matter which way you look at it it is still a huge disappointment and you have every right to be upset.

No, I'm I'm the same terrible boat as you. Today we are a month away from our wedding date. We feel such loss that our wedding was close and now so far out of reach.


Our friends and family try to empathize with us but its not the same as a birthday party or a postponed/ cancelled sporting event.
We had everything printed with our wedding date and now its all garbage. All of vendors are not available for the same date, so now we lose deposits. The time and the money, the hope and planning it all meant nothing.
Everything is ruined and planning this all over again is painful and torturous.

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Thank you! That's a pet peeve of mine too. I hate when people say "it could be worse." I'm like yeah. .. But that doesn't make this suck any less... Thank you so much for reaching out. I am so sorry to hear about your wedding, but I am grateful to not feel so lonely in this.

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Oh noooo. That's terrible. I'm so sorry! 😭😭 We had a ton of stuff printed and made with our date on it too, and I have idea what to do with it all. I also feel like the planning again is painful. I'm kind of afraid to even start trying for fear that this might happen again. Again I'm so sorry to hear about you big day, but I'm grateful you reached out.

View Quoted Comment Honestly, we are so terrified of setting another date. No one knows what's going anymore and the fact we may need to do this again a 3rd time is more than I can take right now.

I’m so sorry. We were supposed to get married April 4th. Had just paid our last vendor and things came crashing on us too. I was like you stopping, mad, frustrated and everything else but it all worked out with my vendors. My honeymoon has not rescheduled. My amazing fiancé decided yesterday that we would still get married April 4 and our reception will be in August. It’s OK to cry and be mad and whatever else you want to do. I did! Hope everything works out for you.

It’s grief we’re feeling. We dreamed, we planned, we had it days or months away and now the future is uncertain, it potential loss of money, time, relationships and possible family member who may not be able to come due to circumstances. I hate it. My venue is closed, I can’t plan, I am at a loss. What next? Plan for another day. And seriously if it doesn’t happened the second time - were just getting married and doing something later.

Aww Natalie, I'm so sorry! There's absolutely nothing wrong with how you're feeling. It's very upsetting having all your plans turned upside down like that! Have your moment of foot stomping and screaming (internal or not), and once you do you can start moving past it and making new plans.

Keep us updated on what you decide! You're in our thoughts!

Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

I am sending you the biggest virtual hug! I agree with you about "This wedding turned out to be a dream I never knew I had." This pandemic literally blew up like an overnight celebrity. You literally did all you could. I hope you are holding up well!

Also your feelings are valid! It's wedding grief and can take a long time to come to grips on having things fall apart so quickly.

Awwww, so sorry to hear that. Sending a virtual hug, maybe a couple 🙂. Can I just encourage you that this will pass and you will get to have the wedding you always wanted.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I'm so glad you're making the best of all of this. ❤️

View Quoted Comment I agree. It definitely resembles grief. I'm also worried that it's going to happen again. Praying the best works out for you. ♥️

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the support! We're rescheduled for October, but right now just kind of waiting things out as long as we can before we start making payments on things again.

View Quoted Comment That is a wonderful post! Thank you for sharing. It's terrible that so many are going through this...but it keeps things in perspective that I am not alone. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I accept you virtual hug and send one right back! ♥️♥️

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the hugs. All of this support means so much. ❤️❤️