Heartbroken, again

View Quoted Comment I have two friends that do photography as a hobby, but they are both bridesmaids!

View Quoted Comment Oh dang I’m so sorry. Hopefully something will workout and the stars will align for you to have an amazing photographer.

Aww sweetie. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Mt bio Father is a pain as well and he was absent from my life for my entire life. I mean he was in/out up until age 10 then I didn't see him any longer than he came back in my life 2 years ago and said he promised to be apart of our lives from there on out... well that didn't last long. He got upset that my stepfather was going to be included in the wedding and he wanted to walk me down alone. Which I wouldn't allow. That's unfair and very mean. Anyway It didn't bother me that he doesn't want to be there. He has been gone my entire life soooo oh well.. But as far as your bridesmaids...oh boy that is hurtful but sometimes everyone in your bridal party may not work out. There are all kinds of reasons why to. Just don't get down and just know the biggest day of your life is almost here. Also a photographer wont be hard to find , also check on here within your budget you should be ok

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the kind words. I know in the grand scheme of things, the wedding doesn't REALLY matter, but it sucks when you can't have the day that you wanted. I'm so over dealing with my father. I was daddy's little girl most of my life. When I was 16 he decided to get married, have kids, and I haven't seen him since or had a conversation without fighting. I do have an amazing step dad who really stepped up to fill that hole for me. One of my bridesmaids is pregnant and will be too far along tonfly from Maine to Washington, my other is dealing with job loss and and an unfair landlord. My photographer has done all of my dance photos in high school, my family picture, my engagement pictures, so I was just really set on her for sentimental reasons as well as the fact that she does them for me and FH for free. My mom is paying for my wedding, and a photographer isn't something we budgeted for, so I feel bad that she has to either pay someone, or we will end up with someone not as good.

View Quoted Comment We started looking for wedding things 4.5 months before our wedding, a 5 month May to Oct engagement. And though we were looking at a 3 day weekend in October during foliage season in the Catskills ,we had no problems. We had been open to other weekends if necessary. But place after place said that with the trend of the last few years to book earlier and earlier, there are more cancellations, mind changes over type or style, broken engagements , delays. . . . Over and over we heard, 12-15-even 18 months ahead, they were booked solid, maybe 1 or 2 Saturdays in a year open, at Christmas, and Easter. Even every Friday and Sunday. But 3-6 months out, 3 of 8 Saturdays, and more Fridays, are wide open. We were offered all kinds of rates 10%-25% cheaper than published in their brochure on site. Places with package deals or limited vendor lists really hate these days, since a whole string of vendors may be freed up, bit you may not want the same style DJ or photographer. Places with no price cuts, were usually suggesting adding a few more features for the same price as usual. You should do well now. I am sorry you have had such a string of issues. But vendor replacements will likely not be so bad as you would think.

I am so sorry to hear this! That's absolutely devastating. Is there anyone else who could possibly walk you down the aisle (mother, grandmother, future father-in-law, etc)? I'm sure that someone would take that honor upon themselves for your special day. As for photography, where do you live? What area? I'd be happy to help with the research aspect☺.

View Quoted Comment I have who I consider my step dad, moms boyfriend of 8 years, to walk me down the aisle. I'm in western Washington state, meaning I get a lot of Seattle prices which are RIDICULOUS. But I'm closer to Olympia.

View Quoted Comment Alright! We got the awesome step-dad who's willing to step up! See, that's one less thing you need to worry about. Now, what about the two bridesmaids. How many ladies did you originally have in your bridal party aside from those two?

Dont worry about the small stuff you'll find another photographer and if you have 2 other people who can take the bridesmaid spots i had 4 girls drop out of my wedding and my parents arent coming i cant say that it dont sting but it does but my 2 older sons will be walking me down the alise so im good. But for you you will keep shining dont let this stop you at all.

View Quoted Comment I had 5 girls, and I did ask two other girls to step in who were more than happy to. It just seems like it's one thing after another and I'm so over it! Thank you for the kind words. 💙