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Cam
Dedicated July 2017

Head table vs. Sweetheart tables?

Cam , on February 23, 2017 at 5:15 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 52

I'm torn, so just soliciting opinions before I get much farther. I have time yet, but FH and I are trying the consider the benefits of both a couple of head tables (at which our entire party will not fit (MOH, 5 bridesmaids, junior bridesmaid, Best Woman, 5 groomsmen, plus us!) and sweetheart...

I'm torn, so just soliciting opinions before I get much farther.

I have time yet, but FH and I are trying the consider the benefits of both a couple of head tables (at which our entire party will not fit (MOH, 5 bridesmaids, junior bridesmaid, Best Woman, 5 groomsmen, plus us!) and sweetheart tables.

I like the head tables because of the tradition. That's about it. But we won't fit at two 10 foot tables (and that's what we have) set up across the front of the hall. And that's all there's room for.

I like the sweetheart tables because the wedding party will be with their loved ones and have fun that way. Not that any of their spouses or plus ones will be lonely as our families and friends are terrific and there is literally no tension at our wedding. (Yes, I know I'm blessed!).

It sounds like I just talked myself into sweetheart tables, doesn't it? I'd still like opinions.

52 Comments

  • Anne
    Master April 2017
    Anne ·
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    I have actually never seen a sweetheart table at any weddings I've been to, but I wish FH was open to it because that's what I would prefer! He really is set on the traditional head table. Smiley sad

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  • soontobeRTR
    Expert February 2017
    soontobeRTR ·
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    We are doing neither! We are just sitting with certain guests. Our venue can only fit 10 round tables with a max of 10 people each, and we have 94 people, including me and FI. Thus, we made some tables of ten, some of nine, and some of eight, and we're at a table with 8 other people. I kind of think sweetheart tables are awkward, but we didn't really have a choice anyway.

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  • Lucy
    Dedicated August 2017
    Lucy ·
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    I'm not a fan of either. we are just planning to sit with our parents at a normal table.

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  • Caitlin
    Master July 2017
    Caitlin ·
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    I have never seen a head table, it's always been sweetheart. I like the idea of sweetheart because you wedding party can mingle with their friends and have fun without being on display and because at every wedding I've been to the bride and groom have barely ever been at the table, they've been greeting their guests and enjoying the party so I don't think it's fair to force people to sit up there with you when you more than likely won't even be there.

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  • F
    Super August 2026
    FMW ·
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    We are doing a head table. Our bridal party is made up of our kids (teens) so his girls and my boys will sit with us.

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  • FutureFuji
    VIP September 2017
    FutureFuji ·
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    We are not doing a head table We are trying to decide between a sweetheart and a table with us, MOH, best man and our parents (so 8 people). I like the idea of honoring our parents but know they will also enjoy sitting with their friends. Really, any way you go will be a win. Good eats and good friends

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  • CoBoundAdv
    Expert October 2017
    CoBoundAdv ·
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    We have decided to do a head table. The venue has a perfect table for the ten of us.

    Only one person in our bridal party is coming with their SO and they are sitting with their best friend. This is our time with the bridal party since some of them are from out of country and we may not see them again for quite a while

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  • Cass
    VIP August 2017
    Cass ·
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    Im team sweetheart table!! that way the WP can sit with friends and you can have at least 10 minutes to sit and be like oh wow we are married before you go and talk to guests, dance, ect.

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  • LoveBird30
    Super April 2017
    LoveBird30 ·
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    We are doing a sweetheart table! As others have mentioned, it lets the wedding party sit with their spouses and it gives you a chance to chat with your new spouse a little more :-)

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  • YourBiggestFan
    Devoted March 2017
    YourBiggestFan ·
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    We're doing a 'head table' but all SOs and dates are sitting up with us, and we're having people sit on both sides of the tables, so it's really just another guest table but with our bridal party and their dates.

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  • KisstheKochs
    Super September 2017
    KisstheKochs ·
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    I've been struggling with this too due to our WP size as well! We decided on a siblings table! It will be us in the middle with our combined 2 sisters and 4 brothers on both of our sides! We are then doing 2 tables on both ends of the remaining guys and remaining girls from the WP.

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  • Sagan
    Super July 2017
    Sagan ·
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    We are doing a sweetheart table with head tables nearby, where the wedding party is sitting with their SO. FH and I have both been in head table weddings where we were separated from one another and it can be hard if you don't know many people!

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