Head Table Seating Issues

If you're worried about too many people, my suggestion would be to have you and the groom with your MOH and BM with their plus ones at the table with you! Another idea would be to have your immediate family with you also (if that's any less people than the BM and GM).

I've seen some head tables with seating on both sides. Traditionally, I used to only see the couple and the wedding party seated on one side of the head table, facing the room full of guests. But in more recent years, I think in order to accommodate more people in your situation, I've seen the wedding party and their spouses/plus ones seated on both sides of the table. That may work for you, if you can't get them all on one side. Since most people (wedding party and guests) only sit during the brief period when everyone is eating, it shouldn't be a big deal.

We are having a head table with only our wedding party. Wedding Party Plus ones and spouses will be seated all together at a regular table with the rest of the guests.

I think I like the ideas of having the head table only include you, FS, and immediate family, or putting people on both sides of the table to fit everyone best. If you wanted to do a sweetheart table, could you move it to the floor with everyone else, and use the riser area for decorations or something like your cake and guest book tables?

This is what we did! At weddings, it is pretty miserable to have to sit without your date and we didn't want our wedding party to have to go through that. It was important to us that they and their dates were comfortable since they were guests of honor!

I thought about putting the wedding party’s plus one in a chair on the opposite side of them. But we have some couples in our wedding party so it would look weird and out of place. Also not sure how that would work with a plus 2

I was under the impression that putting the wedding party plus SO was considered a kings table. If you were going to have the wedding party sit up front with you, I would consider either having all of them, plus their SO/+1 (the SO/+1 can be seated opposite of them), or only having the Best man & MOH & their SO/+1 up front and then having the rest of the party with the guests.

Who are the plus ones in the “2 plus ones” situation? I think significant others / dates should definitely be at the table. But if the plus ones are some sort of different circumstance, I think you could be a bit more flexible on where their guests sit. For example, our best man was single, and chose one of his good friends as his plus one. We’re friendly with this friend AND his wife, so, we invited them both— so, he had 2 guests. In this “just friends” instance where the guest had company, I think it would be fine to seat them elsewhere (I mean we had a sweetheart table haha but if we did a head/kings, I wouldn’t have included this couple at it , they would've been a bit out of place honestly. Not knowing us that well, I think they would’ve felt out of place being part of the display anyway!)

Since we have multiple couples in our wedding party, and didn’t want them to have sit separate , we are doing a sweetheart table with just bride and groom, and then a head table to the side of each of us for our wedding party to sit interchangeably.

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The plus twos are people with a significant other and a child. The two children are both part of the wedding party actually.

Thanks everyone for the suggestions!

The kings table idea would work if we didn't have that riser. I think asking the plus ones to sit with their backs to the guests would be a bit odd when they're all sitting on a riser.

The venue told me they can't take down the riser and they also won't move the head table table. So, i'm at a loss honestly. I think the only thing I can do is just seat the significant others and children towards the end of the head table and squish some folks or ask if they can take one for the team and sit in the front tables for dinner. I'm also going to tell them that they can leave the head table once dinner and dessert is done. It's the groomsmen with this issue, so i'm assuming they'll all move to another table once the dancing starts anyways.