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Dedicated April 2010

Head Table or Sweetheart Table???

Valerie, on March 2, 2010 at 6:34 PM Posted in Planning 1 33

Any opinions on whether to have a sweetheart table with just husband and wife or a bridal table with all members of the bridal party. Is it rude to have a bridal table if some of them have dates? Ugh, I have about a month until the wedding and this is stressing me out although everyone keeps telling me not to worry about everyone else, I can't help it. I want everyone to enjoy the day and not feel awkward or out of place.

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Latest activity by Shannon, on October 12, 2010 at 4:02 PM
  • Analy aka T-waffle
    Master October 2009
    Analy aka T-waffle ·
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    We did a sweetheart table, and let our BP sit with their spouses next to us. It worked out great, especialy since we went to all the tables and said hi to everyone before dinner; we were rarely sitting.

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  • Bride2B
    VIP August 2010
    Bride2B ·
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    I want to do the same as Analy-seeing as each BM and GM have spouses... i am going to have two tables to the side of us with a different center-pieces so they can still be special.

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  • Pumpkin
    VIP October 2010
    Pumpkin ·
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    I'm a HUGE fan of the sweetheart table. As the fiancee of someone who was recently in a wedding, it's really kind of sad when you can't sit with your other half. Be kind to your wedding party and let them sit with their dates.

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  • Nina
    Devoted June 2010
    Nina ·
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    Im a sweet heart table. Just because i have been in 2 weedings where i had to sit up at the front away from my FH and kids and mom and Dad, one wedding i hardley knew the other brides maids. So i am saving my girls from that feeling.

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  • Antoinette
    Devoted August 2024
    Antoinette ·
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    We are having the sweetheart table. Congrats!!!!

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  • Rosie
    Master June 2011
    Rosie ·
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    I'm not sure yet...neither of us really like the idea of a sweetheart table, but I can understand the awkwardness of being someone's date and having to sit at a different table than them just because they're in the BP. Is there some kind of in-between?

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  • V
    Dedicated April 2010
    Valerie ·
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    Yeah the other thing we were thinking of maybe just have the Maid of honor and spouse and best man and spouse sit with us and then the rest of the party at the table next to us. I dunno . . .

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  • kelseyj
    VIP August 2010
    kelseyj ·
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    I'm having a head table... I don't want my guests to feel like they are intruding on the sweetheart table when they come by to say congrats or something... besides my bridal party is mostly single... and my venue is way too small for extra tables! And I love having people I'm close with around me, I have the rest of my life to spend just me and him, when am I going to be surrounded by all our family and friends again!

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  • JNAS
    Super March 2010
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    Sweetheart table for us!

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  • C
    Devoted August 2010
    CamoBride ·
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    Our BP is all kids, so that decision was easy - Sweetheart Table! If your BP has a lot of spouses that are not part of the BP, I like the idea of having a Sweetheart table so they're not divided.

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  • Christina
    Devoted July 2010
    Christina ·
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    I am having a sweetheart table too. All of our BP are married (happens when you marry in your mid 30's and are the last ones! haha!) so they can all sit with their significant others.

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  • Mrs shdvl
    Master July 2012
    Mrs shdvl ·
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    I saw a idea that might work. instead of the traditional placement at the top of the hall the "head table" was down the center of the room. The guest tables were on either side but not too close so people couldn't walk to the bride and groom.

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  • Color of love
    VIP September 2012
    Color of love ·
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    We're doing both. A sweethearts table for the two of us then a table on each side of us for the bp. This way dates of the adults/ parents of the children can sit there.

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  • Tinkerbell
    Devoted November 2010
    Tinkerbell ·
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    FI wants a head table and since I'm uncomfortable with a sweetheart table also that's what we're doing. Some of the BP are married some not but we figure that sitting apart from their significant other for 1.5 hours won't kill anyone. All the spouses/GF/BF will be seated together and everyone moves around after dinner is over anyway -- so no big deal.

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  • J
    Expert June 2010
    June2010bride ·
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    We are doing a sweetheart table and the bridal party will sit by us with their significant others!

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  • Tara
    Super July 2011
    Tara ·
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    I really like the idea of doing the modified head table with the MOH and spouse and bestman and spouse sitting with us and a table on each side for the rest of the bridal party. With 4 BM and 4 GM, a JBM, a flower girl and ring bearer(my daughter) it would be a very crowded head table otherwise.

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  • M
    Master November 2010
    Mrs. Turner2B ·
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    I'm having the sweetheart table cus our BMs and GM all have s/o's and I remember when I was a BM for my best friend's wedding, she had a head table and I didn't like having to sit there for most of the reception while my bf (FH now) sat at a different table with people he didn't know.

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  • Mrs Danie
    Master October 2010
    Mrs Danie ·
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    Unless our MOH or Best Man are bringing a date, we will just have a head table. Otherwise we will have a sweetheart table. There is extra room at the head table, we can squeeze in a couple extra.

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  • Former MDLS now Mrs. K
    Master October 2010
    Former MDLS now Mrs. K ·
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    We're doing a sweetheart table too with two bigger tables on either side of our table, just like Konichiwa did in her wedding. She posted a picture of that a week ago or so and it looked nice.

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  • JJ
    Master December 2009
    JJ ·
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    Sweetheart if you can!

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