He wants to wear a hat, advice please

My FH has a TON of hats - mostly ball caps - but one of his absolute favorites is a black Kangol like the 1st picture.

@BrideMeg, I was going to post it if it wasn't already on the thread!

I agree that it's his day, too, and he should have a hat that he's comfortable with.

@JSARGE how does wearing a hat make it NOT a monumental event? Also, it's a monumental event in BOTH their lives and they deserve to wear whatever the hell they want to wear.

@Martha, your FH should get to wear what he wants and it sounds like you already know that, thankfully. I don't know why weddings turn women into self-centered people who think it's okay to dictate what their FH, the person they pledge to love more than anyone, should wear, even when he tells you he doesn't feel comfortable, all for the sake of photos. The photos may last forever, but so will his memory of your disregard for his feelings.

My FH has the same issue and is looking into wearing a Fedora for ours. We are having a DW in Mexico so it fits the theme. I'm still not crazy about the idea. It's a tough one. I think he needs to know that you are still marrying him no matter what and he doesn't need a hat to confirm that

He should wear what he wants to wear.

Do you really want your FH standing at the alter with you thinking about how uncomfortable he is that people can see his bald spot? Put his mind at ease and let him focus on the day.

Ehhhh- i feel like he's probably going to look back in 5 years and go "damn I look silly"... but it's his day- I find most people are MORE uncomfortable wearing hats when they aren't used to it- does he wear a hat normally outside a baseball hat?

maybe he can just go with a 0 or 1 guard and shave it down?

#Ithinkbaldguysaresexyasfuck

How badly is he balding ? you can get really good filler fiber products that actually looks really nice, its an option. I'm a hairstylist and this is what we are going to do on my FH, but his thin spot its full on. so it just depends

Have you looked into a hat like what Indiana Jones wears? It's not a cowboy hat but it's not a fedora either. I think a ball cap wouldn't look all that great for a wedding UNLESS your men are wearing jeans. But I think the cap should be black in that case....but if they aren't wearing jeans then maybe look into the Indiana hat. I'm tempted to tell you that the hat thing is a bad idea. But I agree with you in how marriage is a compromise. Plus my FH is being a little silly (okay ridiculous) about something in our wedding. But I'm not going to say anything because I'm getting my way in every other aspect of the wedding day, so he can, of course, have this thing he demands. Haha

Whatever he chooses, please don't wear a trilby and call it a fedora. Trilby hats are hideous.

I can understand being sensitive about balding, but he does realize he's going to be bald the rest of his life, right? Hiding it on your wedding day when he'll be bald forever seems kind of weird.

He should be comfortable. But please. No baseball cap. I don't even know if I like the whole hat thing. But hey it's his day too.

I say he should wear what he wants. It's his day too. My FH chose what he wants to wear, I'm not crazy about it, but it's his choice.

FH really want to wear a top hat. I think it's weird, but he loves it lol. It's his ceremony too, so of course I told him fine.

Maybe try to talk him into something a little nicer than a baseball cap? But if he's self conscious without one, then let him wear it. It's important for the groom to be happy and comfortable too.

1. He gets to wear what he wants, just as you do.

2. If he wants advice, I'd suggest no baseball caps. Even if he's not Jewish, he might consider a kippah. (See photo of one of ours, below.) It actually has no religious significance, and the Pope wears one, so it's not like they are reserved for Jews. They come in all colors, would cover a bald spot, and are suitably formal without being over the top. Or he could go with something like a top hat, depending on the formality of the wedding.

@2dBride for the win!

@Joan people do things for weddings they don't ever do again all the time. Women who never get manicures get their nails done for their wedding, they lose weight for their wedding, some get hair extensions, some who never wear makeup spend hundreds on a makeup artist, etc. I don't see this as any different.

I'd say if you want to keep it formal there's plenty of options out there for him. But if you don't mind let him wear his baseball cap and be comfy.

I say let him wear the hat its his day too, just try to get a nicer hat

Well, if it's an outdoor wedding on a mountain -- what about a cowboy hat?

Let him know that a brim will shade his eyes and they won't be visible in photos.

For my beach weddings, I ask couples to take off sunglasses so they can gaze adoringly into each other's eyes.

Hey, Martha-- thanks so much for taking your husband's side on this issue! So many brides seem to think it's just *their* day and dismiss what their FH's want-- you rock, and your husband is a lucky man. I hope he finds a hat that suits his needs and tastes!

View Quoted Comment My fiance wears a hat 100% of the time unless we are home in bed. So I feel it would be weird for him to not wear a hat. We are doing men in jeans and boots white shirt black vests and pure black fitted ball caps ... I hope your fiance did what he wanted , that is what I am.doing for him. Jeans because he isn't a formal.person (yet I am. ) hat even though I would prefer cowboy hat not ball cap but it's what he wants. I just love that he wants to be included in the planning ☺ most men just wanna show up ...