He don't like weddings

Arlrene I never thought about it that way

Sounds like he is not in the place to be getting married. Slow it down! Not worth risking a divorce down the road if he’s not 100% in.

I was with my ex for 8 years. He took me engagement ring shopping on his own accord and a few days later told me he didn't think he could marry me. I stuck around for a couple more years because I loved him so much and couldn't imagine my life without him......

Obviously, things went south. The only real arguments we had centered around marriage and the future of our relationship. I wanted marriage, he did not (turns out because he had cheated on me and he knew if I found out I'd leave him... guess who did it again and got caught?). I gained a lot of important things out of that relationship and grew in a lot of important ways - but in retrospect, staying was a mistake. I did not listen to him when he clearly TOLD me he did not want to be with me long term. I tried to force something that just wasn't there.

I could have saved myself a lot of pain and grief. But this is how we learn.

I am now in a wonderful marriage with a man who wants to be with me, respects me and is truly a partner in life.

Point being, I've been somewhere similar and you cannot force something like marriage and have it end well.

The thing is he want to be with me for a life time he just to scared to get married but I did want one person said an asked told him if he want to marry me then don't keep thinking about the negatives. An if he don't he can take the ring back