He doesn't want to wear a wedding ring

It depends how important it is to you, but don't let societal pressures dictate.

DH has my initials tattooed on the underside of his ring finger, but they fade and have to be touched up a LOT. He doesn't wear a ring otherwise, and I've really never thought twice about it.

I understand where he is coming from, because men don't typically wear jewelry. But I would be upset if my FH didn't want to wear a wedding ring. If it really bothers you, then I think you should talk to him. If you don't care, then I would let it go.

I know most women would let it go, but for me personally it would really bother me. If I were in this situation I would try explaining how important it is to me that he does wear a wedding ring. DF picked his out, and it's black with a turquoise glow underneath. Maybe try showing him various styles and colors to see if there's anything he does like. Edit: spelling

Neither does mine. Mostly because of his job. He is a police officer. But I got one for anyway. I didn't spend a lot, $54. I did express that I would like him to wear it on special occasions and when we go out bit otherwise I know he won't wear it. I understand the concern of him not wanting to wear it. Be confident that he loves you. Maybe talk to him and ask him the same as I have. It's a compromise.

My FH isn't allowed to wear a ring at work. He will still have one, but won't be able to wear it at work most times. We discussed the tattoo option and I don't mind it. We have been together for 6 years so we don't ever think of divorce as an option.

My great aunt and uncle have been married for 57 years. My uncle lost his ring about 20 years ago. He never replaced it.

In the greater scheme of things, it doesn't matter.

My dad worked around machinery and he never wore his wedding ring

My FH is the exact same way!!! He is saying he hates jewelry and doesn't want to wear a wedding band and wants to get a tattoo instead! First of all, he doesn't have any other tattoos, so this would be his first, which I think is a bad idea. We might just end up getting him one of those silicone ones that are popular for working out with because he does workout a lot. I just asked him if he would at least try on some wedding bands to see how he feels once he has one on. We will see what happens!

Maybe just trying giving him some options. Has he ever tried on a wedding band? He may like it more than he thinks he will (at least that is what I am hoping for my FH)! Good luck!

Neither one of you HAS to wear a wedding ring. It's more common to see husbands not wearing them, but sometimes wives don't either. My SIL is allergic to all metal jewelry, so she doesn't wear a wedding ring.

So he won't wear a ring now, but will if you guys get divorced? Makes sense.

Neither does my FH. In his line of work a ring can be a really big danger. I totally understand and it doesn't bother me one bit. We actually just talked about looking for a ring for him to maybe wear on the weekends or so but he really isn't a fan of jewelry.

My parents have been married 35 years, and I could probably count on two hands the number of times I've seen my father wearing his wedding ring. He just doesn't like how it feels. This is a toughie for me though - I'd really want my FH to wear a ring. Maybe compromise like a PP said - he can wear the ring when you go out, on special occasions, to social events, etc...? I agree that tattoo rings are less than attractive, but maybe you'd be more comfortable with him having a tattoo ring than none at all? At least then, there's an outward display of your marriage.

Is it because he doesn't find it comfortable? Some watches can be uncomfortable and so can some rings. FH's ring is SO comfortable. When he's not wearing it, sometimes I try it on my thumb because it's so smooth and just... comfortable. It's a "comfort fit" style and has a nice heft to it. So he might change his mind if he finds a ring that he likes.

But if it's not wanting jewelry on his hands/wrists, maybe he'd wear a chain on his neck? It seems like the symbolism of the ring is important to him too (hence wanting the tattoo) so maybe you can find something you both like the idea of.

I shared this on another thread. This is a band made by Carbon 6. At the time they we a Kickstarter which is why I got it so cheap. They now sell for $125. Still completely worth it. Why? The band is extremely light weight. So light weight my FH didn't even notice it was on. Also, since it is made of Carbon it is virtual indestructible.

http://www.carbon6rings.com/

I don't think we'll get divorced and he is for sure the right guy for me -- I just think it's dumb to get a tattoo that you wouldn't otherwise get. He doesn't have any other tattoos and this would be the first. I have known far too many people who got a tattoo for their significant other, it didn't work out, and then they're stuck with a visual reminder of that mistake on their body.

This is something my parents fight about almost CONSTANTLY and they've been married for 26 or 27 years now... My Dad doesn't like wearing jewlery and where he works it's actually dangerous so he never wears his wedding band. This bothers my Mom to no end, and she's already prone to jealousy so that doesn't help.

Maybe he can put it on a chain and wear it as a necklace? That's what my FI does with his engagement ring while he's at the gym. Or maybe a really nice watch to wear more daily if he's more comfortable with that?

Either way, definitely figure out how important it is to both of you, and if you're okay if he doesn't wear the band even if he has one. It would suck to be fighting about something like that, on top of all other stressors, for 25 years!

What about a silicone ring? qalo.com We both have one (in addition to other rings) but I wear mine when I work out and H wears it more often, when he's working with his hands.

If you want your FH to wear a ring, would he be ok with a silicon band? There are several companies out there that make silicon rings to they're safe to wear around machinery or in dangerous jobs. I have 2 firefighters that work for me part time, and they both have silicon bands because they're not allowed to wear metal on the job.

ETA: we're both getting tattoo rings, because we do so much where we're not able to wear rings (even silicon bands).

ETA again: Also, if he is willing to get a tattoo and not wear a ring, whats the big deal? He isn't asking you to get a tattoo.

Has he tried any on? My husband literally panicked (like, yelling at the saleswoman to GET IT OFF GET IT OFF) when he tried them on for the first time. Then he kept insisting the rings were too small and "suffocating." But he gave it a shot, and now, a few months later, he notices if he forgets to put it on and even told me last weekend he needs to get it resized, smaller, because it slides off too easily.

My point? Lots of guys don't like it, but he'll get used to it. (Not that you should force it, my H was very open to it, but it just took time.)

My FH has never worn jewelry ever and he just ordered 2 wedding bands... One for work and one for dress. I let him pick whatever he wanted as long as he'd wear it. Try having him look up different styles if it's something he really likes he may wear it.... Even if its just for special occasions!