Having Best Man's Ex Girlfriend.....

Just tell him. He's an adult, he should be able to be around a former girlfriend for a few hours without causing a scene.

I agree he should. This wedding is about you and ur FH so for you guys, he should be able to deal with it.

Was the break up really bad though?

I have a bitof a hard time with whether or not I should be friends with my BIL's "friend". The two dated for like 3 yrs but he is not the type to be serious or settle down with anyone so it was a matter of time before he broke up with her. Currently they are still "friends" who occasionally spend the night together but it's complicated. She really wants more with him and is willing to sacrifice her pride for it. It's terrible. But he's doing everything he can to gently shake her loose. But she's such a great person and she was a huge help with me at the wedding. I really like her and appreciate everything she did. I feel like without her, my wedding might have been a failure. She did alot to help. But he really wants to be free of her. I hate it.

No, it lasted like 3months at most. He's just weird about ex girlfriends.

I might have an opposite opinion, but if I was the ex girlfriend I wouldn't come to the wedding, unless me and you were really close and had been friends way before I dated the bestman.

Second, I guess it depends how the break up went, and men take things differently than women but i wouldn't want to be around any of my ex boyfriends. Not because I'm not mature enuogh, but because its awkward, and it just ups the chances of drama. Especially if he has a date for your wedding.

It may cause some drama but i think you need to talk to the bestman before inviting her. He will tell you how he feels but i think because he is the best man you should respect what he wants. I agree its your wedding, but thats just how i would handle it.

Well, If I were you I would have asked my FH as well as the BM before you accepted help and said she'd be invited..hopefully there is no drama or tears at the wedding if by then he has a new gf..Also obviously I don't know her, but it could be the case that she is just using being nice and helping to plan to get closer to the BM..Unless you guys were really good friends before she stated dating..Also if he is trying to get rid of her, a wedding usually is not the best scene for that lol. Unless she wants nothing to do with him anymore, then it would be less awkward. Good luck!

Apparently I don't live life in soap opera world, because I still don't understand the problem. I've attended ex-boyfriends' weddings and had three of my ex-boyfriends at mine. The best man better have enough respect for you and your hubby to avoid drama at your wedding, even if he hates this girl.

I'm with Ryan S. I've never understood why ex's can't remain friends or be supportive of eachother (once all the pain and stuff goes away) You spend years with someone so surely you were also friends beyond being in a relationship. It's silly. And it's your wedding, if you want her there then invite her, best man can just be an adult.

I'm not sure. FH told me it's fine. He said we just won't tell him until FH can figure out what to say to him and when to tell him. The best man is very very immature for his age. I'm not going to except her help and not invite her to the wedding. That would be rude and to me it's would using her. Other than her offering to help, I don't have anyone else. All of my bridesmaids live over an hour away and all work full time and my whole family lives 4 hours away.