Have you ever been with a married man?

I couldn't keep being with him... I hurt too much to be the other and I hated to be hiding. I was shamed at myself for what I was doing. So I ended it. I stopped talking to him and things just got easier since he doesn't work at my place during summers. He still works here and we have to work together at times. But now we're just friends and I meant it when I say friends. There're no feelings other than just a good friendship. When I saw that the relationship with my FH and I was getting serious I told him about this. (I don't hide a thing from him). HE said that whatever happened before him is in the past. 4 years later and his this guys wife just found out what happend. Started texting me pretending to be him, but she didn't get no where since him and I have nothing anymore. Looks like she thought this was a resent thing. Turned out to be that she also cheated on him during the same time. I was worried then when he was telling me that him and her had problems. But now I know it was

All the truth.... I talked to him resently about it and he said that his wife has not mentioned it again and is acting like nothing happened. Guess she can't do much since she did the same thing.... My FH knows whe I talked to him and about what. I feel terrible I did this and at times I wonder if I'm a horrible person for doing it.

But I'm blessed to have a FH that doesn't care of what I did in the past and loves who I am now....

Don't take this too hard or feel too bad. Sometimes it is hard to control who we have feelings for. I fell for someone who had a girlfriend because of the way he treated me. He was nice to me, I wasn't used to that. I felt a serious amount of guilt until he broke up with her. Turns out he was a jerk though (he treated me like CRAPOLA!) and he is now back with her. Lol!

I'd be wary of the good friendship now though, I don't entirely trust guys like that anymore.

I'm sorry he treated you like CRAPOLA ... but I've always said things happen for a reason... you had to be treated bad in order to find you FH.

We're friends but not best friends..We talk when he's in my office but now I don't talk about personal stuff. just nomal how are you, hows your day going, or work things.. I do ask how he's baby is...Shes the same age as mine so is always cute to hear about kids adventures...

Mayra, your feeling bad is just the sign of a good woman who made a mistake as we all do from time to time. I was in a similar situation years ago. We were both in a relationship and started out talking about our problem relationships, helping each other to understand the other side. At some point it did get physical and each time we said it was gonna be the last time. I finally left both my relationship and him alone. I needed time alone, because this was something that I said I would never do.

Neither of us ever told the other to leave, we always encouraged each other to stay with who we were with. We were good enough friends that if I called him today, he would come to my rescue but we don't keep in touch. FH knows about this situation and he understands. It's not an issue for us, and I am thankful. But yes, on the occasion that I run into him somewhere, I still truly feel bad about it, but we were friends first, and still conduct ourselves as such.

No, I believe in karma.

I totally understand you Heavenlyyoyo.... is a hard thing but thanks God we found understanding FH's .... I didn't want to hide this but I was afraid he wasn't going to understand...

Its normal to feel that way. I just recently had a similar situation this past weekend. I went to my pastor house for their family reunion and in the process of enjoying myself his son who I use to date in jr and high school all of sudden said "all this land could have been ours but I had to go and mess it up" it was he-larry-us LOL but for a second it felt good to smile and laugh with someone again and not be stressed. He is married and going through some things right now with her but even after he attempted to call me all I could think that my little spat with FH right now can't compare to where I would be if I tried to talk to him because of a little happiness. Don't feel bad you told the truth from the beginning and that's all you can do.

Nope, but I'm married to my ex's brother if it makes you feel better lol

DH and I started becoming really good friends of sorts while I was dating his brother. We didn't do anything but talk and apparently after his brother told him he wasn't ever marrying me DH decided he would. That was about a year before we got together. BIL was kinda weirded out and mad at first, but now we're friends more or less.

Yup I don't feel bad I told the truth..that's what I want from my relationship an honest one....

@ Labake O. I also believe in Karma. But I think if you things with bad intentions and don't come out clean then yes it can come back and bite you...But if you did wrong, acknowledge it and try to fix it and come clean about it then is not ok but you have a right to be forgiven.

I totally agree with you Mayra!

I agree you, Mayra.

You asked if anyone has ever been with a married man. I haven't because I think it's wrong and I feel like it'll come back to bite me in the tush.

I have a girlfriend right now who was with a guy for ten years, married, kids, I was jealous of how she seemed to have every thing. This past winter we went to mexico together with my ex FH, and her husband, she would talk about how close friends she was with this guy on her baseball team, how they had so much in common, and where best friends. She couldn't understand how her wife was so mad at this realationship. Fast forward to three months after mexico, my friend left her husband to be with this other guy. The thing is, this other guy isn't leaving his wife. He continues to date two women, both of them knowing, and both of them so in love with this scum bag that either are willing to leave him. The thing that blows my mind is that, my friend doesn't feel bad for this other women, who has been married to this man for over 7 years ( she happens to be my old boss aswell).

I believe you know what you did was wrong, and you told the truth. Thats all you can do.