Has anyone watched the Showtime show Polyamory??

I do and I told FH it's like a train wreck you can't look away from. It's basically a open marriage with a hippy twist and in-house counseling. I hope they all get tested because that one couple all have 10 lovers each or something.. WOW!!

No I don't have the fun cable shows over here....is it another one of those Sisterwives shows?

No. Nothing like sister wives. It's a a married couple who can have lovers gay and straight and share them together and apart. It's very strange. lol

OMG Tina, it's so bad, it's so bad it's good. google it.

I think it's worst than sister wives. At least we don't have bedroom scenes from sister wives.

The blonde girl who is engaged to the already legal married couple, said they do seem to split off later in life but they are bound together through love.. so some people might see it as a divorce but it's not. What does that mean? lol

Ha, yeah. How was that going to work out? They were married you come into the "triad" and you get "engaged" to them? Um ok.

You're not the third wheel AT ALL.

It's just so weird. I try to respect minorities and those who live a life I may not understand, but I just cannot really believe their reasoning or anything. With that many lovers how do they even find time to really get to know anyone very deeply? The more people involved the more complicated things will get. It just seems crazy to have that many people's fingers in the pie no pun intended, and still have a good relationship with anyone. Why not just call it what it is, and say they're friends with benefits? A relationship just can't be that self-serving, or it won't work.

Pan, what I also seem to observe is the fact that one people seems to not be into the whole lifestyle as the others do.

In the couple's relationship, it's definitely Tahl's wife.

In the "triad" the wife out of the married couple just wants friends with benefits. The blonde chick just want to be accepted.

Tahl telling his parents he's having sex with his friends but not the men? Ummm weird. Why do your parents need to know that? haha

The "Triad" - It's obvious to me that the blonde is just desperately trying to be seen as important to the already married couple. What is more shocking is that she wants the girl more than the man. And the married girl obviously is just in it for the sex and fun.

The "pod" - Tahl's wife is jealous and is going along with it just to please him I think.

That sounds slightly familiar...is the show supposed to be based off of a real couple - err - group, or whatever they would be refered to as? I remember seeing some reality show with a similar set up. For some reason, though the only detail that sticks out in my mind is a woman with a purple mullet lol...is that the same group?

I love being stationed overseas but sometimes I feel as if I live underneath a rock

I saw this the other day on Showtime. I was in a state of complete confusion about those situations. How can two couples be in a relationship. I think that situation can cause some ou diary issues, and I use the word some loosely. To each is own.... Just not in my relationship. That's just how I feel right, wrong, or indifferent

It is a train wreck you can't look away from.

The blonde girl is kinda sad. IMO it's kinda like she's just a toy.

Tabatha- What?! SO Tahl doens't want to have sex with the guy but his wife has to get down with Kamela (sp)? Yeah, why can't they just leave the "pod" and get Tahl a special friend.

Poor kid is going to need LOTS of therapy

No Tina they all are very average looking people. No Purple mullets. lol

You've peeked my interest! i may have to look up that show now

Lol @ Tina I think that was an episode of Taboo!! I tried watching it with my parents one day (lmao) and my dad couldn't handle it so I didn't get to watch the whole thing...

trainwreck, eh?? I think I need to check this one out! haha

I made this account just to comment on this (although I am actually engaged to be married, so it isn't a complete waste). I am polyamorous and I am marrying my girlfriend, but I am already married to my husband.

I have seen that show, and those people are ridiculous drama addicts (and Kamala and her hubby are the queen and king of pretentious, annoying, self involved alternative lifestyle people). That said, not everyone practicing poly... like they are.

Generally, poly people are pretty religious about safer sex, so I imagine they are all being tested. Anyway, if you want to know more about polyamory, google it. If you just want to watch a bunch of sad, histrionic people make themselves look foolish... watch that show. I'm watching it @_@

I don't know the triad, but I know Kamala and Michael personally. They've been together a long time, and are as stable as any relationship I know. The folks who were on that show were encouraged to create drama and amp things up, in order to have a show that folks would watch. So, for example, Kamala's not wanting to share her lover would normally have been a fairly calm negotiation between her and Michael spread over a couple of days.

Most long-term polyfolk actually have relatively little drama in their relationships.

Pan S. asked how do you find the time to go deep with anyone if you have many lovers?

Part of the answer is that *most* of the time, most couples are doing pretty mundane things anyways; it's not all high-intensity intimacy. As a practical matter, polyfolk usually spend a lot more time on their relationships than monogamous folks do. (I haven't watched a TV show (except this one) in *years*.) That alone gives me many more hours to spend focused on the people I love.

And like anything else, the more you do of it, the better you get at it. Polyfolk *have* to learn to be very good at communication!

Most polyfolk have between 2 and 4 lovers that they have intense connections with, and if they have more lovers, they are often long-distance relationships, or someone local they see only occasionally. These aren't really the same as FWB, because the emotional intensity is there even if you don't see them every day, or even every week.