Handicapped Father of the Bride

I'm sure this is hard on you and your dad!

I think the best thing to do is see what his status is closer to the wedding.

Not me personally but a close friend of mine had her father who was sick walk her down the aisle in his wheelchair. He was able to stand with her support and his oxygen for a short first dance. The pictures honestly looked fab and I know he loved every minute of it.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! Yes, we will absolutely wait and see how things go.


That is precious and I love that idea. Thank you for the encouragement and ideas!

You can absolutely have that walk down the aisle with your father! If he has a motorized wheelchair, then it'll be much easier. Even if he doesn't, you can have an usher or another family member push him while you walk beside him holding his hand.


It'll be a beautiful moment!

My dad has a spinal issue (among several other health concerns) which makes it very difficult and painful for him to walk. He walks with a walker, and he's his good days and his bad. The day of my wedding was a bad day. I had originally planned for both of my parents to walk me down the aisle, but he was so bad that day that even with the walker, the short walk would be too much. I walked with just my mom. My brother stepped in to do the father/daughter dance with me. Not gonna lie. It sucked. However, I'm just thankful that he was there. I know how much it sucks to not have your dad walk you down the aisle and miss that big moment, but sometimes things are out of our control. I tried to just focus on the fact that he was there and, while it wasn't how I had pictured/wanted, he was a part of my wedding day.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for that!!! I do want it to be beautiful, because I do love my Daddy ❤️❤️

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I do want him to be there regardless... I am just such a planner and don’t like it when things get changed that are beyond my control. But I do need to take it day by day, and hope and pray, and enjoy the positives that are happening.


I would love to connect with you some more if possible!

View Quoted Comment Haha, I'm the same. I didn't even know about my brother dancing with me until right before. Apparently, he, my parents, and the DJ all had this conversation without me. They quickly told me and then the DJ announced it. My brother stood next to my dad and then walked over to me. It was a really sweet moment, even though it was not what was planned.


And sure. Feel free to private message me.

I don’t have advice but I just had to comment because my dad also has Parkinson’s disease (going on 8yrs now). I can totally relate to just watching the disease take things slowly and gradually. While my dad is still able to walk (with some assistance from a cane), he can be very unstable. We took it into consideration when choosing a first dance song. I also know that so much of it can depend on the day (how much sleep did they get, what time of day is it). I wish I had more advice to offer but I definitely feel and empathize with you. It’s a terrible disease. And not one anyone thought my dad would face in his early 50’s.

View Quoted Comment It sounds like our fathers were diagnosed in early to mid 40s! My dad is 62, and he isn’t able to do what men his age can do. My heart and thoughts are with you, your dad and your family!!! If you need to talk through things or need support, feel free to message me

View Quoted Comment Same to you! My dad was diagnosed around Age 55 and is 63 now. Thankfully it has been slow progressing for him but definitely agree, he cannot do things healthy men his age can do. Not everyone gets 20yrs (or even 8) with Parkinson’s so I try to focus on the positive. All things considered, he does well.