Handicap Bride Advice

U do whatever u feel more comfortable. Its ur big day. Everyone knows u use crutches right? Dont risk ur health causing u more pain because of what the "ideal day" looks like.be u and smile.if u need ur crutch to help u down the isle than u grab it. U can always wrap them in white lace or something and put flowers on then to make them pretty and blend in.

I agree with Tracey about making sure you are comfortable. I recommend letting your photographer know what would make you most comfortable so he/she can start thinking through and gathering posing ideas. Allow for extra time if you can during you and your a FH pictures. And bling those crutches out!!!!

ETA : I do not think it would look awkward if both you and your a FH sit and the pastor stand. It would be nice if the chairs were arranged to have you both facing your guests and the pastor had his back to them. You and your FH could sit a little bit apart so the pastor wasn't covering you. ???

My FH is a paraplegic. I will sit during the ceremony so I'm not towering over him.

If your willing to, there is a venue called the grand 1401 and it is located in Fresno, Ca. The website for this venue shows a wedding (in its photo gallery of course) with the groom in a wheelchair. Hopefully this can help you visualize it since it actually happened. Hope you find your solution!

What about a bar height stool so that you are closer to the height of the officiant?

I have seen a bench for the couple to sit on during the ceremony in circumstances like yours. Have you talked to your officiant? They should give you an idea of what they normally do in these circumstances.

Ooo I love the idea of a bench @JessieJV!

I have also seen ceremonies where the guests' chairs are arranged in a circle around the bride, groom and officiant. (I attached a picture). Maybe this is a good option so everyone can see you better?

No matter what, you will look wonderful on your big day Do whatever is most comfortable for you!

I think it is fine if you're all sitting & won't look awkward at all. I would place chairs to where the officiant is in the middle but further back so he is not in between you and your FH. Also place you & your FH's chairs at an angle to where you can see your guests but can also easily turn your head to see the officiant as well. Hopefully you understand what I mean.

Hi Debbie. I am also handicap. I have limb girdle muscular dystrophy and have many friends that are as well, along with my brother. I am still walking at the moment but standing to long causes problems and I trip very easily. I have been considering having chairs like a few of my handicapped friends have done. They tend to just have 2 chairs facing each other and have the pastor or Officiant stand like they normally would. For my case I would have to have higher chairs like bar stools because I can not get up out of chairs anymore. But I have seen many wedding with people in wheelchairs or using walkers and other things. I personally would use something so you aren't more embarrassed if you fell while walking. It would definitely be the safest way to just use them and not over work your body just to walk without them. If you usually use it I would just use it. Everyone should know or has heard about it I'm sure, so it would be expected. It is never awkward and looks great! I can post a picture of my close friends wedding of how they sat if you would like to see what it was like or would be look like. Please don't over work yourself. Do what you have to. It will look nice no matter what!

I forgot to add the part about pictures. The pictures of people sitting for there ceremony look great. I would recommend sitting. But if you want some of you and FH with out your crouches or being in chairs, I would wait until after your ceremony and take a few without that stuff. You wouldn't have to go for a long period of time without them in that case. I have seen a bunch of people do that. So they have some with them standing with out anything. But the good thing about that is they could sit in between to rest for a min if needed and you will never know thats what you did because it won't be photographed.

Thanks everyone! I've got some good ideas now that I hadn't thought of!

I picture all 3 of you sitting in white chairs. Your decorated with white tool or something. Would look lovely

I see someone suggested the whole on the round seating thing. It was popular for (thankfully only) a short time. It died out pretty quickly when people realized many of their guests would end up seated where they could really only see the bride OR the groom, or facing someone's back, etc. it really was much worse for visibility than traditional seating. With the bride and groom being seated, it would be even worse.

A decorate porch swing with legs and cute canopy

The seating in the round is problematic.

Both of you sit, face to face in front of the officiant. It'll be lovely! And decorate your crutches with some garland and flowers!