Hand deliver STD

It's against etiquette rules to hand deliver them. I just had this discussion about STD with my fiancé. Taking a picture of them and texting them out to people is also poor etiquette. Lol Guys just don't get it.

@FutureMrsG - Why is it against etiquette to hand deliver them?? Not being sarcastic, just genuinely curious.

You don't have to send STDs at all if you are trying to save money. You can also just send them to out of towners and VIPs.

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@Taryn : They are already paid for and ordered . Plus I'm having a destination wedding so save the dates are essential .

I think it all depends on the relationships you have with people that dictates how strictly you should follow the etiquette of mailing vs. hand delivering a STD or invitation. For example, my parents and FH parents would never think poorly of us for hand delivering to them since we see them so often. This goes for our siblings as well. We hand delivered to immediate family that we see all of the time, but mailed the rest. Everything seems to be just fine

I hand delivered all of the STDs to the guests that I see often, mostly people from work. Then I mailed the rest. I am having a DW too!

My friend hand-delivered a bunch of her STD's. I know it's against etiquette but it really didn't bother me. I also already knew here date / was already a BM so I didn't really need one anyways.

I'd just mail all of them. You'd probably come out cheaper by mailing them than you would driving around and hand-delivering all of them.

I'm going against etiquette when it comes to my invitations/STD... Only out of town guests and some elderly family members are getting a std... A lot of the invitations my mom is hand delivering.... Basically so she can tell certain family members its invitiation only and they are only allowed the number they are given.. Weird/Rude I'm sure, but what a lot of people don't understand is certain family members can be the type to go to a potluck, bring only one dish to pass but bring 8 extra non family members.. lol. Or even weddings.... Some cousins in their 20s think its okay to bring their girlfriends to everything. At my brothers wedding, they brought 5 friends, no joke... And we had to tell them sorry, no food or seat for you... My mom is pretty stuck on handing it out in person to certain relatives. And I'm okay with that because I don't want a bunch of teens ruining our wedding.. If you know you're guests well, and that's how you choose to do it, I think it would be fine...

Don't be like my cousin and sit at her bridal shower, and handing out invitations to save her stamps money... She also didn't even give me an invite, she said oh I'll just count you down and give so n so your invite. Then she later messaged me on facebook with wedding details... Probably the worst wedding I've ever been to... lol

Save the dates are a new phenomenon, so they don't really have much etiquette or tradition attached. Hand-delivering wedding invitations doesn't violate any etiquette, but it is considered more formal to mail them. So, you can apply that to STDs in this case.

I hand-delivered some of our STDs and invitations when I visited family abroad (very slow and unreliable mail in their country). Kind of goes without saying, but just make sure you don't hand anything out in front of people who aren't invited. That would violate etiquette.

Another question : Our STDs are post card style . My handwriting is so loopy and big while FH has alright handwriting for a man. Should we try and handwrite the addresses or get a calligraphy ? I might be overthinking this as usual !

We hand delivered our save the dates to his coworkers and to our family and friends we see often. Invites were all through the mail. Except for his parents who were with me when I received the invites and wanted theirs so they could officially be the first to RSVP. lol

@Sprezz : I know my FH would hand it to somebody in front of others . I have to tell him so many times to stop running his mouth about our wedding especially at the barber shop. Just the other day he went to get a light fixed on his truck and someone asked him " Hey I heard you were getting married in the Bahamas, I would love to go " The person that asked isn't on the guest list and he asking me what to say . Asking me how they know . Hmmmm hello you run your pie hole everytime about our plans .SMH Men

@RusticQueenB - I just think it's tacky. I'm a firm believer that people will treat something the way you treat it. If you treat it informally by passing out STDs, people will treat your wedding informally and brush it off. A mailed invitation adds a level of class and makes the invitation/std feel more exclusive - "this person took the time to mail me an invitation, they must really want me there." That's just my thought, though. (:

I hand delivered mine to a few people and mailed the rest. Like our next door neighbors --yeah not mailing that.

Also to my parents and FH's parents. I was also forced to hand deliver one to my brother b/c he lives in Rwanda and the mail we send never actually gets there so I had to give him one while he was home in August.

I think it depends on the situation really.

@MrsSuge, as a fellow cruise bride, we were going to do message in a bottle invites and hand deliver a lot of them, but I kept thinking how much more impact it would be to get it in the mail. I really think you should mail them... mailing them gives them a chance to not just take it and forget it, they may actually look at it and discuss booking the cruise.

@FutureMrsSuge - haha! Sounds like a headache. Good luck with that!

I'd say you should handwrite the STD addresses in your normal handwriting, and then splurge on a calligrapher for the invitations. I decided to learn calligraphy so I could address our STDs and invitations myself. The STDs turned out awesome, but I really wish I didn't spend all that time on them. I wished instead that I'd used that effort for our actual invitations. We ended up paying a calligrapher to do the invites since I was burnt out after the STDs. So moral of my story, don't worry too much about the save the dates. Save the special stuff for the actual invitations.

I'm hand delivering as many as possible. Of all things to stress about this is not one of them.

I agree that I over think everything and want it all to be perfect. I was only going to hand deliver to my MOH since we are together every other day . Oh and my hair stylist as she kinda invited herself .

I'm apparently very non-traditional, but I think it's fine to hand deliver STDs of people you see a lot. The only advice I would give is - be careful when you're handing them out that somebody you didn't invite doesn't see because it could be awkward (e.g. coworkers that didn't get invited see the STD on another, invited coworker's desk).