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Kelsey
Dedicated October 2020

Halloween is Only Venue Date Available - help!

Kelsey, on June 5, 2019 at 11:51 AM

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Hi Everyone! Newly engaged and new around here, but browsing for some insights and this seems like a great place to come for honest input. We are planning a wedding for the Fall of 2020, and not really willing to budge on the time of year. I've always envisioned getting married in the Fall and it's...

Hi Everyone!

Newly engaged and new around here, but browsing for some insights and this seems like a great place to come for honest input.

We are planning a wedding for the Fall of 2020, and not really willing to budge on the time of year. I've always envisioned getting married in the Fall and it's my favorite season. I'm not up for planning a wedding quickly enough for Spring (before it gets hot in NC), and want to avoid the heat of summer at all costs.

So, this brings me to my predicament. We found a venue we LOVE. Their only fall 2020 Saturday (almost all of our guest will be out of state, so we'd prefer to keep it to a Sat. to limit the time people need to take off from work) date available is October 31. I am definitely not into Halloween, and do not want a Halloween themed wedding. Our immediate families don't care much about Halloween, so not a scheduling issue for them. Is it totally bogus to plan a wedding on Halloween and more or less totally ignore the holiday?

A few other notes, not many of our guests have young kids, but that is a slight concern. Most single or newly married couples without kids yet, or older couples with grown children. I don't have any Halloween-obsessed friends, but I am curious what the average, kind-of indifferent to Halloween guest would think about attending a (no costume) wedding on Halloween?

Chances are I am overthinking this (typical!), and I know at the end of the day it's our wedding, but some non-biased input would be awesome. THANK YOU!

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  • Kelsey
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    Thank you, Courtney! I wish I was a Halloween-lover and wanted to go all out with it, but just not my style Smiley smile
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  • Kelsey
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    Thank you so much everyone for the diverse perspectives - this is exactly what I needed to help me think through the decision Smiley smile really appreciate the thoughtful replies! 💕
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  • thisismrsb
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    I think you'll be fine. You'll have plenty of fall decor without it becoming Halloween-ey. If you decide to have some aspect of Halloween there, you can have your flower girls dress in princess dresses (think a-line or ball gown dresses that do not from a costume package.) Or you can allow guests under the age of five to wear a costume.
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  • CDickman
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    I don’t think it would be a problem. Maybe if it is only a few kids and you could afford it you can buy a bunch of candy and make them bags to give them at the end of the night. But if not it will be fine. My fiancé and I like Halloween. We don’t have kids but I would go to a wedding on Halloween.
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  • CDickman
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    Maybe in your website put up local trunk or treats in the areas that guest live. A lot of churches hold Trunk or treats.
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  • Brittainy
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    If it’s a venue you love just plan it as you wanted for a fall wedding. Holiday or not. I’m purposefully having a halloween wedding that’s glam and dark and not cheesy Halloween but not fall theme either. More Victorian ball. But do what you want to! It’s your day!
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  • Brittany
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    I am also considering a Halloween wedding and I am exactly on your level. We are not huge Halloween people and I really wouldn't want any sort of theme either, so this thread really helped me out, too! I agree with the consensus, just make it how you want it! If people choose not to come bc of the day that's their choice! Happy planning!
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  • Taylor
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    I am having a Halloween wedding for the exact same reason you are considering it. At the end of the day it is what we wanted in a venue. Only thing Halloween in my wedding is going to be a few desserts. Interested to see if you ended up landing on this day or not.

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  • Kelsey
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    Hey Taylor! We did end up booking on Halloween Smiley smile we’re just sticking with fall theme though - May use some white pumpkin accents but nothing too intense. I think some fun nods to the holiday will be cute - like we are considering serving a beer called “white zombie” - but other than that we’re more or less ignoring the fact that it’s Halloween! I have gotten my fair share of people joking that they’ll show up in costume, but it’s all in good fun and I know they won’t actually (it they know what’s good for them LOL). Overall though it’s very much been a non issue!
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  • Taylor
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    That's great! Oh my gosh people have joked with me too about that, or they say is it orange and black! UGH no! We are going to just make it like any other formal wedding they would attend. Our situations seems very much the same, small wedding, either side of the family there really are no kids so that it is not an issue, plus we are thinking of having it as adults only in general. I was so happy to find someone who wasn't saying they where doing "gothic" in the forum I was like there have to be others that had to select this date due to venue choice lol!

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  • Kelsey
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    Hahaha oh girl I’m definitely in the same boat. I’m really not into Halloween whatsoever and sort of hate costumes honestly. We’re also not having any children. I’ve found that ignoring the fact that it’s Halloween is working pretty well. We made specific notes about attire on our website and are keeping everything like classic wedding-ish. Maybe it’ll all blow up in my face eventually but so far smooth sailing!
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  • Taylor
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    Haha SAME here totally ignoring it and it is also working well so far! we will have to touch base after our weddings for sure. Don't worry it won't blow up in your face at all. I know both of our days are going to be amazing! I really need to get something in about the attire too, I haven't really maintained a website at all. Thinking putting formal to semi-formal on those invites will do the trick! Good Luck!

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  • Kelsey
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    Thanks girl! I think putting that on invites is perfect. We did a “FAQ” page on our site and included the not-so-subtle note below (like 95% of our guests are from out of town/out of state so we built out a lot of info) - “


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  • Kelsey
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    Whoops missed the quote haha we put this We hope our wedding will be a fun excuse to wear your favorite cocktail attire! While we recognize our wedding is on Halloween, we kindly request that you leave any costumes or themed attire at home.


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  • Taylor
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    I might have to steal that for my invites! Love it!

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