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Just Said Yes October 2018

Half of my bridesmaids have not ordered their dresses yet. Advice please!

Aubrianna, on April 19, 2018 at 11:21 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 26
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I’m getting married on October 6th of this year. We decided to order bridesmaid dresses online through a bridal boutique website because the dresses are very affordable. I also allowed each of my girls to choose their own dress, as long as the colors all matched. I did this purposely so that the girls could select a dress that would fit their budget. The most expensive dress that one of my bridesmaids selected was $95. I asked each of my girls to have their dresses ordered by April 1st. Mostly because it is a mail order service, so I wanted to allow plenty of time for returns in case a dress didn’t fit properly or was damaged in the mail.

It is now mid April and half of my bridesmaids still have not ordered their dresses. I’m trying not to be pushy. I don’t want to be a bridezilla. But these girls have had their dresses picked out since February. They have had plenty of time, in my opinion, to order their dresses by now. I should add that the bridesmaids that haven’t ordered their dresses are not tight for money. These particular girls have full time jobs with great pay and no children. If I thought it was an issue of affordability, I would totally have more sympathy and offer to help. They choose not to order their dresses for my wedding, but announce how they just got a wonderful mani and pedi 🙄

The disclaimer on the website states to allow roughly 2 months for processing and shipment. I’m worried that if the dresses aren’t ordered soon, we will be cutting it really close. Especially if a return needs to be made.

What should I do? Am I being ridiculous?

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Latest activity by Julija, on January 29, 2023 at 5:04 PM
  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
    Sarah ·
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    If they don’t get the dresses, they get to be guests. It’s that simple. Send one more reminder about when they needed to be ordered by and then leave it alone.
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    Savvy June 2018
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    I like Sarah, no time for the B/S Smiley smile
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  • Priscilla
    Savvy February 2019
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    I would just remind them! Sometimes things just slip by the wayside. This sounds very harsh but its true, the person that cares the most about your wedding is you. They aren't thinking about your wedding everyday and they most probably forgot. They just need a gentle reminder.

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  • Julia
    Savvy October 2018
    Julia ·
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    I have the same problem! One girl bought her dress and the rest are just waiting, so strange to me. Now the company I am using is going out of business and sizes are selling out so people are scrambling, but it just feels like unnecessary stress. I know as brides we have so many things to juggle and its frustrating when bridesmaids don't step up with something as simple as ordering a dress. I would just remind everyone kindly, and reiterate the 2 month lead time. I wonder if girls were hoping to lose weight or ad other concerns about sizing changes, that would be the only other reason I could think of. Good Luck!

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    Savvy June 2018
    Antonia ·
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    Sometimes when people have too many options people get indecisive. When people have too much time,they wait till the last min. Your job is to make that window as small as possible. What I did was collect everyones money and let them know I need all the money at the same time because usually when you buy in bulk you can get a discount which makes it cheaper by for them. So I did that so i could have control over the process. this also will eliminate the surprise factor. I know what the dress looks like physically, I know it will fit and then i send it to them myself so I know they got it. Also with online my suggestion is make sure it is a company with in the States and not direct from china! Things direct from china is a hit or miss and mostly a miss...
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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
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    The website says you need to allow 2 months. They have 5- 6 months.

    Step away from the issue.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    I’m getting married the same day as you and none of my girls have bought their dresses yet. I’m honestly not worried about it. Everyone is an adult and if they don’t order a dress in time they will not be standing up at the altar as a bridesmaid.
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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
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    We’re getting married in September and my BMs haven’t ordered theirs either. I’m not going to micromanage. My one BM has picked a few she likes, she’s waiting on MOH to look through so they can agree on one. I’m all like 🤷‍♀️. They’re adults, I trust they’ll get their dresses.


    5-6 months is more than enough time.,.

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  • Michelle
    VIP September 2018
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    I’m getting married at the end of September and my MOH hasn’t even picked a dress yet. I haven’t been worried about it. I mention it once in a while but I’m not pushing it.
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    Just Said Yes October 2018
    Aubrianna ·
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    My MOH said the same thing. Thanks for the advice!
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    Just Said Yes October 2018
    Aubrianna ·
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    Thanks for the advice! I’m going to remind them one more time and then just see what happens. I totally get that people forget. I’ve been there too. But I can’t continue to hold their hands and remind them time and time again. We will see what happens! Thanks again.
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    Just Said Yes October 2018
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    Yeah the company is in the States. They are made to order dresses which is why the processing time is so long. I wish I would have thought about collecting money and ordering as a bulk order! Probably would have been so much easier.
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    Just Said Yes October 2018
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    I respect that. Thanks for the advice!
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  • Chandra
    Expert December 2024
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    No, being pushy at all. Remind them one more time, and if they're dresses not ordered by may, they will be a guest at the wedding, ain't nobody got time for that!!
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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    THIS.

    There is no reason anyone had to order their dress by April for an October wedding. They still have plenty of time to place their orders. I wouldn't even worry about it, yet.
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  • Stephanie
    Super March 2018
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    This can be lower on your priorities list. Have you given them a specific date to order by or were you just expecting them to jump on it? Maybe they're taking their time to save up the money, knowing they've still got plenty of time? I would give it another month and then gently remind, but make sure they're all in a good place financially to make the purchase. Communicate your desire to have them in by a certain time and give them a chance to speak up if they're going to be unable to order by a certain date.

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    Mim ·
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    There's no reason for them to have ordered the dresses already, as long as they have the dress at the wedding you are golden. It's possible that they are holding off because of weight gain/loss or pregnancy. Someone's body can change a lot in six months
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  • L
    Dedicated July 2018
    Lisa ·
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    We just ordered from Azazie Sunday for my July 28th wedding. We did custom dresses and they are supposed to be here in less than a month.
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  • alwaysWright
    Devoted October 2018
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    Date twin Smiley heart ! but I think you should give them a deadline. If the website suggests two months, maybe set the cut-off for June (to allow for returns if needed). I would let them know if you're concerned about it, but I don't think you need to stress just yet! I still have two girls that haven't bought theirs yet, but then again they got theirs from David's Bridal and my other girls got the dresses in 2 weeks. Good luck!

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  • Future Mrs M
    Super June 2018
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    You have plenty of time, even for returns.

    My wedding is in 58 days and I still have someone who doesn't have their dress. I gave her one reminder last month.. if she doesn't get it.. oh well. She is welcome to have a seat with the other guests. I am not babysitting adults.

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