Guests who didn’t Rsvp...?

I did one follow up with anyone who didn't RSVP. If they didn't respond, I take it they aren't coming. If they said they are I told them the absolute last day I need their RSVP card. I'm doing follow up and that's it. If they don't have a name card, they don't have a place.

Our venue only needs to know a number for food but if someone shows up that didnt RSVPs, that sucks, they may just not get food lol I'm not going to be crazy about it though.

FH and I r very strict on our head count. We r adding these to our invites. We will follow up after deadline. If I have not heard anything from people who have not rsvp'd by the day I have to give count to venue they will not be allowed entry. Our guest list is small, under 50, so it will be very easy to keep up with the rsvp list.

I remember that episode! Haha! I'm assuming those guests RSVPed to all future weddings! If people don't RSVP by deadline, I'm contacting all of them asking. If I STILL don't hear from them, I'll probably leave an extra 5-10 seats. But I assume I'll hear from everyone, since I'll be calling or texting them.

We called everyone, or rather a friend did on our behalf. I don't expect anyone to show up unannounced.

We will not have a place for them to sit.

I watched that 4 Weddings before. Sorry but there is no way I could be that rude. Just pay for it and enjoy your wedding. Don't look like a fool saying something so rude.

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I agree - and so passive aggressive having the DJ do it!! So you are announcing the "naughty" guests to everyone? Icky.

I saw that episode, I thought that was ridic that they separated the guests based on if they RSVPed. Really rude. But it is also really rude to show up to a wedding without RSVPing as well. But freaking crazy to segregate the guests seating based on that!

My reception hall has a security officer who needs to verify people are on the fuest list before they can enter the building. It is too early for me to send out invites yet, although I do have 8 confirmed RSVPs from my international guests already. I'm undecided if I give the security officer just the list of those who responded with a Yes on their RSVPs, or via phobe call follow up. Or if I should include the namea of everyone who received an invite regardless if their responses.

I think my culture must support people not rsvping, but I literally had about 50 people not bother to rsvp. Only like 2 or 3 were a mail situation, the rest all very clearly intended on coming and with 2 and 3 guests, they just didn't bother to send an RSVP by the printed deadline and weren't going to. I'm so glad i had my fmil call around to check, my guest list grew from 90 to 162 with people who didn't bother to rsvp but intended on coming and with numerous guests. We told them they can't bring more than 1 or 2 guests but I don't know if they will listen. At this point we are going to have a strict guest list at the door and we are going to have about 5 or 6 extra seats, any more than that will have to go home.