Guests that just show up...

If they are at the ceremony, nothing will be said. I, for one, will be too busy to notice an extra face and in a church, there is plenty of seating. However, my DOC will tell them they did not RSVP and there is no meal or seat for them. Sooooo, bye? I do not want people just standing around my reception awkwardly.

I have a feeling that we will have one or two because my aunt who RSVP'd no is still trying to find coverage at work even though I told her numbers were already due and she can't. So I'm sure she will try if she gets off work and I feel like a few others may try but I also am almost sure of about 3 people who aren't going to show even though they RSVP'd yes so it will even out. My DOC's husband also agreed to he security just in case

I'm having a DW so I'm hoping this will help to prevent this. If they did show up, I'd have the DOC let them know that they may not be accommodated since everything was set up for a certain number

I read this as completely random people showing up, not those that didn't RSVP lol.

Yeah. It's really bad form. At a formal sit down it would be impossible to accommodate them.

I'm worried that FMIL may invite a bunch of people that FH had politely but firmly told her we would not be inviting. FH and his mom have discussed her "guest list" several times. She was ok when he told her that we couldn't afford to invite their friends but when he told her that we wouldn't be inviting his SIL's mother she insisted that she has to be.... no mention of BIL's mother needing to be invited though. She also wants to invite family friends that FH hasn't spoken to in years, because they are practically family they have to be invited.

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There was one crasher at my first wedding, but it was someone we both loved and we also had two no-shows so we put her in one of those spots.

Omg I'm hoping this doesn't happen. But I think I might have a few tables with less than 10 ppl so we can somehow accommodate those ppl who can't rsvp right -___-

This sort of happened to us. We invited a good friend of ours and his girlfriend - note that we only knew her because of him. They RSVP'd that they were coming, and all was well. Two weeks before the wedding, they broke up. He told us she wasn't coming to the wedding as she was in college several states away and well . . . they had broken up.

Fast forward to the day of the wedding, and guess who shows up? My husband quickly pulled our coordinator aside and asked her to make sure she had the correct meal (vegan) and to direct her to table X - unfortunately, the only table with open seats was the one with her ex-boyfriend and other friends at it.

Aside from that, we didn't have any random people show up. We deliberately kept everything off of social media and avoided discussing any details with anyone who wasn't invited (not for lack of trying on their parts, though).

I really hope this doesn't happen. I'm not ordering extra meals either so if people show up that either weren't invited or had RSVPed no, then they will be asked to leave.

I feared this. There is a family friend who my grandma blabs everything to so I was scared she was going to tell this friend J*. J* showed up to my neohew’s bday party with another one of her friends and that friends WHOLE family. She’s very rude like that. I gave my grandma very little details about wedding. I posted NOTHING about wedding on social media (that’s the worst) I asked my venue about uninvited guests and my DOC assured me that the person wouldn’t have a seat or a meal if someone just showed up (after giving final head count.) luckily for me, the exact number of ppl who RSVPd was the exact number of ppl who showed up. No no-shows, no uninvited guests.

I was just married last Saturday and we had no crashers, no uninvited guests. Our wedding was small so we would have noticed right away. I would not worry about it. If you have a family member who you want to say away for drug/drinking issues, let your venue know.

What a scary thought...to have people come to your wedding uninvited.