Guests that just show up...

I would have the DOC tell them we can't accommodate. Our venue requires that we buy our own liquor, so I will not be risking running out over people who don't have the common decency to rsvp.

I didn't have anyone show up who wasn't invited. I can't imagine someone doing this, although I have read posts where a couple was invited and not their kids but they brought them anyway. We did have a family member who was not invited as he is a drug addict and thief and was refusing rehab. We left his name at the door and we told the venue under no circumstance is he to be allowed in if he showed up (his brother and dad were invited). Fortunately, it didn't come to that.

Of course not. That would be completely absurd behavior. If someone had tried to crash my wedding I suppose I would have had venue security escort them out.

No, we didn't have anyone who wasn't invited show up day of. Only invited guests knew the details of where and when to show up.

We had 2 wedding crashers. I didn't really know about it until later in the night. They came after dinner but I know they were getting drinks from the bar. Honestly I didn't do anything about it because like I said, I found out later in the night and by then I didn't want to waste my energy on it. I certainly won't be speaking to my family members that invited them any time soon though. I honestly didn't think anyone would be rude enough to show up to a wedding they weren't invited to, but I guess some people really are that rude.

I think its a pretty rare occurrence so I wouldn't worry too much about it.

My DOC had her wedding about a month ago. She said they had about 20 people who either RSVP'ed no or not all showed up. She said she had about 4 extra seats but everyone else kind of stood around awkwardly

Thankfully we did not have this problem or did we have the problem of guests who did not rsvp show up anyway. Best way to keep unwanted guests away is to keep details of where/when your wedding will be held off social media. And if you are afraid an uninvited guest will get information from another family member or friend- tell your venue staff that those uninvited guests should be asked to leave immediately.

I've worked for the same company for over 20 years and I know a lot of people but I'm only inviting 5 people because I have a very large family. Ive had a few coworkers that are not invited state they are planning on just stopping by. To prevent this from happening we are not posting information on FB and I've asked the few I did invited not to provide details. If they do show they will be asked to leave.

We had guests RSVP yes and not show up. Most of these we had to track down after the RSVP date and even as they said "yes", I suspected they would not show up. We had guests bring extra people and we had totally unexpected drop-ins for ceremony and/or reception. We didn't say anything to those we noticed at the reception, and I really noticed most of the extras at the ceremony that didn't stay for the reception when looking at pictures afterwards. Mom and H tried to tell me that the "extras" would happen, that most wouldn't follow or don't know etiquette so I let them add a couple of extra tables for sitting; I was still in awe at the nerve of some people. It all balanced out in the end.

I had engagement party crashers so I am also worried about wedding crashers. I would probably have someone at the venue take care of it if need be.

This didn't really happen to me but could have. My cousin (19 y/o) decided last minute his gf could come to the ceremony, leave for dinner, but come back for dancing/booze. I caught wind of it and just told him to bring her to all of it and was able to add her to my seating chart. She would have been an addition and it would have been awkward had I found out because she would have had nowhere to sit...but in hindsight we had some no shows at the table next to hers so a chair could have been easily procured. I wouldn't worry about this.

Married on Sunday ... This did not happen to us

I know it's not the same, but this happened to my mom and she didn't even find out about it until after she was billed for an additional person later that week. And he was in their pictures. She had a lot going on so I guess she (or, nobody for that matter) noticed. She wasn't too worried about it, but I can see how that would be extremely infuriating to have somebody that you didn't invite show up.

My ex asked if he could come to my wedding and "bring his friends" (he is also my son's bio dad-- but does not have a good relationship with my son, as per his own choosing.) I promptly told him NO. If for some reason he gets wind of where my ceremony/reception will be, I will have the security throw him out.

I have been hearing that this does happen alot. Our venue has a 165 person minimum. We ended up having about 157 people coming so I plan to keep one empty table open for those scragglers. I'm paying for 165 plates regardless. Still I can't even imagine showing up to a wedding I didn't rsvp to. Some people have zero manners.

I saw on an episode of Four Weddings the DJ made an announcement "If you did not RSVP for the reception please wait outside". Slightly awkward. It would have been better handled with an announcement asking them to come to the DJ booth and address them privately.

My family is prepared to act as security and kick those people out. I do have about 5 extra meals ordered just in case.

Didn't personally happen to me, but I've heard of substituting guests, and of course, bringing uninvited kids.

It was amazing, but two 3 year olds (1 uninvited) keyed up on soda CAN take over and fill a dance floor.

My entitled relatives told a MOB that their kids were attending. No if, ands or buts. They were the only kids there, of course, and refused the kids meal. Can you imagine someone saying "my children don't eat kids' meals!" loudly? Then the kids didn't finish the adult plate.

We were 99% sure we wouldn't invite kids; that little incident made me 150% sure we wouldn't. (The parents boycotted our wedding and didn't even have the courtesy to RSVP).

Our venue is not fancy by any means, but thankfully it comes with a security guard.

This is a big fear of mine. It will most likely be people who you aren't close with. So annoying! I really dont care if they feel unwelcomed. They weren't invited. One side of my family has a huge issue with the concept of not inviting 10 extra people because THEY felt like THEY could. It's your one day to be selfish and get what you want. People in general are rude. As you can tell this is a huge pet peeve of mine. As a side story my family said that even though I'm rarely invited to anything I HAVE TO invite them because I'm nice and I'm patient. You gotta draw a line when it really matters to you.

We had two "crashers" to the ceremony who, when we saw them and the shock wore off, we invited them to the reception. They declined.

What does FFIL have up his sleeve?