Guests not responding

No response = no plus ONE.

They clearly aren't respecting your time, I would do what's best for you. You gave them two opportunities to respond, and they don't seem to be valuing your efforts. I would move on and not worry about them.

Give them one spot and let it go. If they get mad, so be it. It's not like you didn't try

Give them one spot and move on. Not worth you getting stressed out about

This soon? We ordered our invitations in mid May for our July 22nd wedding and they were ready within 10 days.

I'd say just go ahead and give them the plus 1. It'll save a headache in the end if they suddenly become vocal about it.

ETA: words

@Laura our invitations will take 2 months. and this is for the addressing-which is being done by another company. I start school next week, I would like to have this done when I have the time, which is now.

Thank you all for your responses!

I bet they just don't know yet. If it's in your budget, I'd just assume yes unless otherwise. Sounds like they want a plus one, but don't have one lined up, so don't want to say yes or no!

@FutureMrsR yes maybe! I wish they would message me back & voice that to me instead of flat out ignoring me.

If I'm understanding the situation correctly, I think you're over-complicating this.

This isn't your RSVP, so you don't need confirmation from these people whether they will or won't bring a guest yet. That's what RSVP is for.

So for anyone that you're giving the option to bring a guest, you write "Mr. Blank and Guest."

I've never really heard of asking before sending out invitations if a guest wants a plus one. To me, inviting the "and guest" is asking if they want to bring the plus one. If they do want to bring one, they'd RSVP for two and write down the name of their guest. If they don't, they'll RSVP just for them. Maybe the guests not responding are confused why they have to know whether they are bringing a guest 5 months in advance?

I think I'd go ahead and offer the plus one. They'll clarify when they actually RSVP closer to the wedding.

I did have a couple guests who didn't respond to me. One guest didn't respond when I asked for his mailing address. I skipped sending his STD and when it came time to send out invitations, I had figured out from a mutual friend where to send it. Since he never did respond to my question about his mailing address, I passed off the responsibility of tracking down his RSVP after the deadline to DH (who he eventually did respond to). DH also had a friend who didn't RSVP who after several attempts on DH's part asking if he would be able to make it, we never did hear back. We just continued to keep reaching out until we turned in our final head count.

So you won't be sending out your invites for at least another 3 months, worry about this then.

@BlueHenBrida okay, cool! My invitations go out in 3 months but the second company working with the invite place kinda needs to know how to address them before they mail them over. Thanks so much! I'll do that!!!

I'm confused why friends would be ignoring you at all.... maybe call if you must have an answer but my friends wouldnt ignore me.... that's odd.

@Harleybeachbride super odd! I'm not that close with them, they're some friends from church, but perhaps they just don't know. So I will do what @bluehen said

Why are you inviting people to your wedding you're not close to? I don't understand this.

@JessieJV I meant it as they aren't my everyday best friends. They are still my friends that I see and talk to. It's alright, you don't need to understand it. I was asking about if I should write a plus one or not & I got my answer! I appreciate all of the responses! Thank you all!

This is super confusing. I didn't ask people if they were going to come and bring a plus one before I sent out invitations.. What's the point in them now since you know who all is coming and how many..?

I still don't get it. If you are friends with these people, don't you talk to them on a regular basis. Don't you know enough about them to know if they are dating someone? The only reason you need to know about their plus one is if it's an SO so you can put their proper name on the invite. If you are just giving single people plus ones, you write...and guest on the invite.

Can you not just ask them how to spell their SO's name in a text?