So I get that the "seat" is already reserved and paid for but let me know if I have any other options than to just deal with it.
So I got really close to someone who started CrossFit the same time as me about 6 years ago. We got really close, were partners in all the workouts, and tried to go to the same group classes, etc. Her boyfriend did it too so we all got really close, but I was closer to her. I stopped going three years ago and basically almost completely lost touch with them. We really weren't planning on inviting them.
Last December they got engaged and then we found out that they had a small wedding because he was moving to the mainland for a job. The plan was for her to move up there eventually. We congratulated them through text and they (surprisingly) called us back and the four of us spoke on the phone for an hour and it was just like old times. So we decided to invite them. Since that conversation we haven't spoke to them except for a few texts here and there. My bridesmaid had to follow up with her about coming to my bridal shower (which she did end up attending) but the reason why she never responded is because she never got the invitation since she has a different address now.
So when I asked her for her new address to send the wedding invite, she said to just send it to HIS address. First off, I hadn't realized that he had even moved back home. I thought he was still in the mainland! She then explains to me that they're separated and she wants a divorce. I apologized and was sympathetic. So then I asked if they were still okay being invited to the wedding what with everything going on. She tells me that I can send it to him and, if anything, he can just bring someone because she's not going with him! Umm...... I would rather SHE come (and bring someone if she wants) instead of him. He's a little loud and too rowdy for us and that's without alcohol. We are having an open bar and he loves to drink "and get nuts" and doesn't care where he is or who's around when he does. He also called me a few times when he was living on the mainland to catch up (which I thought was weird because I didn't think we were that close but I guess he was also lonely and wanted someone to talk to... but it was facetime call... haha super weird).
Now I don't know what to do because I gave her the invite AT my shower (so I didn't have to mail it to him) but I'm worried that she'll hand it to him and tell him to go... which I can totally see him doing because, apparently, he thinks we're close enough for us to facetime with each other! Yikes! Help!
