Guests bringing a date for the wedding

That's fine. You don't have to give plus ones to single people. As long as you're inviting people in relationships, you're fine.

It's not up to you to decide the severity of a relationship. If someone tells you they have a significant other, you must invite that person by name. You are not to question how long they've been together or what their intentions are in that relationship.

You are perfectly fine not giving truly single people plus ones.

Plus ones for single people aren't required, but nice to extend. I would try to budget for them just in case your guests begin a relationship between now and then.

Personally, we offered plus 1s to single guests but only a few of them are actually taking us up on it.

ETA: Lynnie brought up the wedding party, I do believe it is important to offer them a date since they are putting in so much time, money, and effort to honor your union.

Exactly what @IslandGirl said! Make sure that everyone in a relationship has their significant other invited by name, but you can skip extending plus ones to every truly single guest on your list. It's a good call to still offer a plus one to your bridesmaids and groomsmen though!

If you get push back or people ask you if they can bring someone, just stick to "I'm really sorry but we're over capacity for our venue and we can't accommodate any additional guests"! It's tough the first time you have to be firm, but it's much easier to pick a rule and stick to it!

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/etiquette-advice/awkward-wedding-conversations

ETA: Also great call by @Holly on remembering to save a few spots for new relationships between now and the wedding!

Ok, thank you. That's kind of what I was thinking. I'm not questioning the seriousness of anyone's relationship and I have invited significant others of my guests I know to be in a relationship. I was mainly concerned about our single friends finding a date to bring just for the sake of bringing a date. They all know other guests that are going so no one should be lonely! Thanks for your advice!

For our wedding, anyone apart of the wedding party gets a plus 1 if they want it. But outside of that we kind of decided who needs a plus one and who doesn't. Some friends even asked if they could have one in which we added for them but we aren't openly offering as obviously it can get expensive real quick by doing so. On our RSVP cards it will also specify how many "reserved seats" each guest gets so no one will try to bring along their group of friends or a last minute plus 1 just because. For example some read, "we have reserved _2_ seats in your honor" and after the menu details at the very bottom is also requires the guests to fill in "__ of _2_ will be attending" so we know if every reserved seat in that party will be used or if they only needed one after all.

Your wedding is not random date night. Anyone with a sig other gets a guest. If you don't even know if they have one, they shouldn't be on your list.

We are giving the BP plus ones, but not guests. Significant others are not plus ones, and should be invited.

We are not giving any single guests a plus one. Nor are we allowing anyone in a relationship to bring someoneelse other than their partner. If their partner can't attend, then they don't get to bring a substitute. For these reasons alone we are not using we have reserved ___ seats in your honor.

It's polite to give them the option. Just because someone if given a plus one doesn't mean they will actually use it

If people have an SO of ANY duration, they should be invited BY NAME on the invite. You don't get to determine how serious a person's relationship is. Ever.

Truly single people don't HAVE to have a plus one, but it's generally very nice to do so.

I'm with Celia!

This is what you do.

If someone is in a relationship, both the guest and the guest's SO are invited by name.

You do not have to give truly single people a plus one, except for single people in the bridal party - they should have the option to bring a date.

Even though you don't have to, weddings are hard enough for single people when they get to bring someone. To have to go alone really sucks. For this reason, I cut my guest list strictly to be able to provide those who are invited a plus one.

But you don't technically have to.

I'm a bit annoyed a good friend of mine just sent me an invitation addressed to "mine name + guest" when I have been with my fiance for almost 6 years. You should invite all sig others and address them by name.

Its okay to not give single guests a plus 1. However, you might want to think about giving a plus-1 to a single guest who wouldn't know other guests there.