Guests add their own plus ones

Previous response posted too soon...for our marriage celebration we will have the same issue. Particularly with one cousin who's been w bf for over 10 years. Not engaged don't live together. Saw her 3 times, him twice. I have no interest in having them there and my husband as well.. it will offend his uncle so we have to invite her...she will likely not get a plus 1 though which means she won't come. That will cause problems...

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She isn't around much. She doesn't live in our state. She was introduced to us as his friend. I know many people that have friends and we didn't give them an 'I invite you and your friend'

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Exactly, he is invited because he is a nephew and his mom would be offended if he wasn't. There are other family members and friends not invited due to space and cost. I'm like how can I allow you to bring a plus 1 when I could invite a sorority sister/ friend, coworker, distant cousin...

View Quoted Comment Precisely....this cousin came to 2 family events to collects checks (high school graduation then college graduation), then her sisters wedding and when her dad has family over for Thanksgiving. Never talks to anyone... And his family gets together monthly, very tight family. She always bails unless she gains something from it or absolutely has to be there...

Hi! That is definitely difficult and you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings either way you go. I know other people say then why should they respect your relationship if you don’t theirs? Well I think it’s your day, your money, you do what you want and they will do the same when it’s their day in return. I say at the end of the day you need to do what makes you happy and stick to it. You do you. We can give our advice but at the end of the day you need to do what is best for you.

View Quoted Comment Okay yes I agree with you, 5 and 30 years are completely different from 2 years and a maybe they are dating which is what OP stated.

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So...ask the relationship status.

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If it's a SO, it's not a Plus One.

I would let this person know that they unfortunately cannot bring a plus one to this event. They’re not the one paying for the event or planning the event #sorrynotsorry 🤷‍♀️

If they are in a relationship of any kind, they should get a plus 1. If it is someone that is just bringing a friend for the sake of bringing someone, let them know that your guest list was complete when invitations went out and you aren't able to accommodate their plus 1 but hope they are able to still come and celebrate with you.