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Guestlist and the +1 Debate

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Happily Married, on September 24, 2020 at 7:12 PM

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Hi All. New here.

Recently engaged as of 09.19.2020, and I’m super excited to begin planning. We are planning a September 2021 wedding, and are hopefully that by then life will be somewhat back to normal and we can have a regular wedding (not COVID wedding).
We are sitting down to write our guest list this week, and I have some questions about +1s. How are you brides handling the +1 for single friends? I want to make a rule that we only give +1 to friends / couples who are married or seriously seeing someone to avoid someone bringing just a random person just for the sake of having a +1.
Is there any type of etiquette Fiance and I should be following? Is it rude to not allow people a +1? Some of my bridesmaids are single too, so do they get a +1?
Thanks in advance ladies! Happy planning!

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Just Said Yes October 2021
Paige · on September 28, 2020 at 3:59 PM
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Ahh I had experience with this on the opposite end. Before we got engaged my fiancé was invited to a wedding, we don't get out and party much and it was of a not really close friend who I had yet to meet..we RSVP'd but the bride came back saying we hadn't been together long enough (a year at the time) for me to be a plus one and he would have to come alone or bring a different date that they knew (different date thing didn't sit to well with me but I digress) ...so we canceled and went on with our lives but they were offended he didn't come. I think saying no plus ones to singles is fine however what you might consider to be long term and what they consider to be long term might be two totally different perceptions...if someone just started dating someone recently but they've met family etc. I feel like they're a good plus one unless there's something personal between you and this guest. In the end it is your wedding and I feel like by adding no plus ones to singles might save you the headache in the end of a horrible guest but the restrictions on how long a relationship needs to be might get you into some situations! Best of luck!
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Dedicated April 2021
Bridget · on September 28, 2020 at 8:44 PM
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I'm having a problem with the +1 also but my problem is a little different. I am adding a +1 for everyone but my problem is a family friend that I am inviting just lost her husband last year he passed away. I dont know if I should send her a +1 or not because I know she isn't dating anyone or anything like that but I also dont want it to look rude that she's the only one I dont send a +1. I don't know what to do.
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