Guest wearing red

I’ve never heard that. Maybe only in Chinese weddings because the bride might change into a traditional red Chinese dress? Unless you’re wearing a red wedding dress I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell guests not to wear red.

Could you please expand on why you think it is rude of guests to wear red? I've never done it, but I've also never heard of it, so I'm trying to get a better frame of reference.

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I'm with Cheryl on this one. I personally love the color red and wouldn't be offended if a guest wore red to my wedding.

I think you will come off as bridezilla if you tell people what colours to wear and not wear. It comes off as controlling and insecure. That's not a pretty look.

Yes, it is considered rude to mandate what your guests wear, because in general, you should allow adults to dress themselves.

I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to agree with the other ladies. It's not a good look to ask people not to wear red. I've never read up on that before, but you're definitely not the first person on here that I've seen ask this question. I think you need to pick and choose your battles in wedding planning and this definitely isn't a battle to fight. Don't stress yourself out over people wearing red and don't put yourself in a position to he portrayed as bridezilla by asking people not to wear it.

I have heard people say guests should not wear any bright yellow, orange or red, so they attract attention from the bride. Same thing for any metallic silver or gold. And never black was a long tradition, association with death. I think it is a lot of hogwash. The only one who worries about what others are wearing is someone extremely insecure. The bride is always the center of attention, regardless of what all the guests are wearing, unless they are baring a lot of skin. Cut low, slit high, deliberately tight or sexy, provocative clothes. Overall, I think traditional etiquette is right in this area: It is never appropriate for any host or guest of honor, or other guest, to tell another adult who is not a ceremonial participant (GM, BM), what they may and may not wear. Only tell the formality of the occasion, and allow adults to choose their own clothes. A bride is supposed to be a center of attention, but nothing gives her powers to dictate things in a socially inappropriate way. Adults should be trusted to dress themselves, and not be subject to the whims and prejudices of every other person as a condition for attending social occasions. People who are dresses in the appropriate level of formality, the same as the bride or hosts or one step down, should be accepted without further scrutiny . No one should be judged every where they go according to their host, or teacher, or group leader's personal opinions . Let adults be treated like adults.

I've worn red to three different weddings (it's just my color). Asked the brides first if they cared, all said no. It's so small in the grand scheme of things. Unless the bride is wearing red, get over it.

I’ve worn red to a wedding. I think you’re going to drive yourself crazy if you’re getting that picky about controlling what other people wear.

I really don't think there's any way to dictate what your guests wear without coming off as rude. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wearing red to a wedding and if you're focused on a guest's red dress on your wedding day, I think you need to take a good look at your priorities.

I'm not really sure why the color red is a no no; I love red. My bridesmaids are wearing burgundy, my grandmother is wearing a shade of red, and my MIL will be wearing burgundy as well. So I definitely wouldn't tell anyone to not wear a certain color other than white.

You sound insecure that someone wearing red will steal your spotlight at your wedding. They won’t. Nobody cares what other guests wear unless it’s an outrageous costume or a literal wedding dress; everyone is too busy focusing on the bride and groom. You’ll get to be the center of attention even if someone shows up wearing a red dress, I promise.

What’s wrong with someone wearing red to a wedding? Unless the bride is wearing red, or maybe the bridesmaids..? I don’t see a problem with it. Please don’t tell your guests what to wear. I’ve been to a wedding where the brides told guests what color they needed to wear and it was really annoying.

I think red is fine, unless traditional Chinese bride. And many Chinese-Americans wear white.

I’ve never heard of not wearing red at a wedding but maybe at a funeral. It’s your wedding so do what you want but it may not be regarded the way you’d like. Keep that in mind! I’ve never been told what I could and couldn’t wear at a wedding aside from jeans or something of that nature.

I think unless it's culturally significant asking others to not wear red is strange and over the top. In general it's considered rude to dictate colors the guests can wear unless it black tie.
If it's really important to you that guests look a certain way I'd suggest a black tie event

The only thing I've ever heard is no white. I don't care what other color people wear, or if they were tight/short/long/etc. dresses either.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this! I’m also kind of shocked that you call people wearing red (or honestly any other color) rude. It comes off as awfully insecure if on the day that you will literally look the most beautiful & will be marrying the love of your life, your focus is on being concerned with what guests shouldn’t wear. You will never feel confident or beautiful based on how others are dressed. These feelings always come from the inside.

View Quoted Comment Black tie is very specific in colors for men. But as long as they are a formal style, which is no bare skin below the top of cups of a strapless (no slits or cutouts), not body hugging, but with some ease and drape, full length is, and solid color, though they may have same or different color beading, and a luxe fabric, like silks, satin or taffeta, or chiffons, (poly ones okay) but no cotton eyelet, rayon, acetates, or stretch knits, or sequins. But still, women may wear any color, including bright red satin embellished with crystals, and white or red lace full evening gowns, and the good taste expensive jewelry, so it could be rubies and diamond at neck and wrists ( not fashion jewelry.). . . So going black tie still leaves women in gowns with any color, formal gowns and gems. No veils, but tiarra type hair ornaments ok too. . . . I have read on here as recently as 2 weeks ago, someone saying she would put black tie, so all women would wear black. But that is wrong. Women's formal is any color, except a very formal white gown at a wedding ( white okay at a ball.)

My husbands cousin wore a red Jordan t-shirt with matching red tennis shoes (Jordan's) and a matching red Jordan hat. I was irritated that he dressed like he was going to the mall or play basketball but honestly the color thing was not even an issue. People know who they're going for when they attend a wedding and yeah you may get a kick out the way some guests act, dress or whatever but nothing takes away from the Bride & Groom. At least for my wedding everyone always kept their eyes on us and were legitimately there to support us.