Guest that don't get along

They should be able to keep it together for your wedding

I invited two of my girlfriends who HATE each other. I sat them far away from each other and that was that. I heard that one of them was super dramatic about it but...what can you do. I wanted both of them there. Guests should be able to act like adults.

Invite both. This is their problem, not yours. They should be able to handle this themselves.

You do not need to worry about invitations right now because, as you said, your wedding is a year away; a lot can change in a year's time.

If, when the time comes, you still want to invite both of them, you do and you expect them to act like adults.

Do not seat them anywhere near each other. If a fight occurs, have security handle the issue.

However, as of right now, you shouldn't worry about this yet as you do have a year to go and things can change.

Invite them both and let them deal with it. They're adults.

FWIW: We have two sets of invited guests who don't get along with each other. In both cases, they dated, had a bad break-up, and no longer speak to each other. They are all adults and will put aside their differences to celebrate our marriage.

Just don't sit them next to each other.

Me and FH had a falling out with some friends. We were all invited to the same wedding. They didn't realize that they sat us right next to them. It was very awkward but we ended up talking at the reception and worked it out. Not saying you should sit them next to each other but they should be able to behave for 1 day

They should both be invited and they can decide if they want to come or not. I have been to a wedding with someone I didn't get along with, I just ignored them. I wouldn't suggest sitting them next to each other or anything but they are adults and should be able to act accordingly for one day.

Let them adult. 2 of my bridesmaids had a friendship ending incident a few months ago. They still both attended the bachelorette and shower and managed to be adults. The incident involved one of the groomsmen and they have all been fine.

I expect no less at the wedding.

Hi Jessica! I'd invite both and let them suck it up and be adults They can pull it together for your wedding! DH had two groomsmen who hate each other (also issues over a girl but happened several years ago), they were totally fine and civil throughout everything, the bachelor party and the whole wedding weekend. It'll be fine!

ETA: good point @Holly! Edited for clarification, no girlfriends were kidnapped

How was the girlfriend stolen? Was she kidnapped, or is she an object?

I assume the girlfriend decided she wanted to be with the second person instead of the first.

For your actual question- what LMac said.

Not your problem.

I invited a couple who went through a NASTY divorce, but I like both of them. I invited both, they came with their new S.O.s. I just seated them far away from each other.

Nothing bad happened.

I have two aunts who one has a restraining order against the other....if they didn't have a legal order issued I would invite them both and pray they can just avoid each other and act like adults. If not boot both their asses out via security.

You can't control people or their actions. You can just hope they care enough about you and your FH to avoid each other and be adults.

Hopefully they will be adults and know how to control themselves out of respect for you. You can also just seat them as far apart as possible for dinner.

Invite them both. It's their decision whether they come or not. If they DO choose to attend (knowing the other one will be there), that's them making the conscious, adult decision to deal with it.

I would invite them both. If one of them gets ugly he can be asked to leave.

I went to a wedding in November and was in a scenario like this - one of the guests was someone that the rest of us had a MAJOR falling out with a few years before, but the groom still remained friends with him. We just avoided him and we were seated at tables across the room from each other. I don't like this person at all, but am also adult enough to not create a scene at someone else's event, especially a wedding. Hopefully the same will go for your friends.

They'll deal with each other or ignore each other. Fi's oldest brother and sister do not talk, for the last 15 years now. They saw each other at a cousin's wedding and it was fine. Both said hi and went on their way. Unless both your guests are complete dbags, they're not going to want to make a scene at your wedding.

Funny thing is I’m being invited to a wedding where I’m in this situation. One of the bridesmaids physically assaulted me a couple months ago (punched me) . Police involved and everything. I have a restraining order in place, but my adult decision is to not attend the wedding. My fiancé is a groomsmen. I have no desire to be around this abusive person and if they feel the same way I do (horrified by the idea of having multiple panic attacks around this person) then they will probably not come. If they choose to come, they obviously can handle being civil.

If they are really going to cause problems for you on your big day, they're both completely childish and selfish. I would like to believe they can each be mature enough to avoid one another and respect you guys at your wedding. I would recommend putting them on opposite sides of the room and having a talk with each of them. Just explain that they're both important to you for different reasons and you can't imagine your big day without either of them there. Ask them to respect each other's space and not cause any drama for you. I have to believe they'll both agree to that for you.