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Just Said Yes October 2019

Guest: Recent breakup, wants to replace +1

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Zahra, on September 11, 2019 at 2:20 AM

Hi all, little unsure how to address this one. A friend of mine who RSVPd “yes” for herself and her then boyfriend have recently broken up and she let me know she’ll be coming solo instead. She just asked if she could bring one of her friends who is a male to the wedding to replace her +1. I want to respond (simply, concisely, and politely) that barring people in a relationship, we didn’t give guests a +1 and hope she’s comfortable attending on her own as she will have other friends there (how else would you say this?). I just don’t think it’s a good idea to bring someone we don’t know to the wedding and I don’t want other single guests to wonder why they didn’t get to bring a guest. Since we had already invited her and her then SO, do open slots just get to transfer like that?

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Master October 2019
Jolie · on September 12, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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Good for you
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Alejandra · on September 12, 2019 at 2:19 PM
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I'm with you here! Regardless of who was invited to my wedding that may know each other I gave all of my single guests a plus one because I know them well enough to not bring a weirdo! Plus it only ended up being 2 people who brought people we didn't know but I also don't know all of my sorority sisters husband or long term b/f or g/f and still invited them because they're in serious relationships, living together, engaged, etc. I didn't want my friends to have to drive alone or anything like that.
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Lady · on September 13, 2019 at 10:30 AM
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I'd probably let her bring someone else. Breakups suck and expecting to bring your bf and then having to come alone sucks too. You definitely don't HAVE to, but I'd probably allow it in her case.
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Nicole · on September 13, 2019 at 11:07 AM
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I agree with you. You invited the boyfriend not a plus one. Therefore, since the boyfriend who was invited is no longer her bf, she needs to come solo
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