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Guest List Question for Postponed Wedding

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Heather, on October 23, 2017 at 1:31 PM

My fiance and I had to postpone our wedding due to hurricane Irma, and now that we have a new date, we want to send out save the dates. Our venue is small and can hold a maximum of 34 people, including FH and myself. We had some family members tell us that they couldn't come to our original wedding due to financial matters and having a newborn, so we did not send invites. We are at capacity with the guest list, however I am not sure what to do with these family members who said they could not attend our originally planned wedding. What is the etiquette here? It would be horribly rude not to invite people who were invited the first time, but there will be major hurt feelings if we do not invite these family members. I am at a loss here and super stressed about it.

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Abbie · on October 23, 2017 at 3:27 PM
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If changing venue is not an option due to finances (which is entirely understandable) and you've hit the venue's max already, I can't imagine any reasonable human being would expect you to go into debt, lose out on significant deposits and move to a new venue just to have them there for the day.

Hurt feelings may be inevitable, but if I were you I would just own the situation. Call your VIPs who declined the first round and explain exactly what happened. Wedding was on, Irma sucks, things had to be re-worked, your venue was able to still host your wedding at a later date which allowed you to keep your deposits, finances simply don't allow room to change venue and you're already at the venue's guest capacity with the guests who had RSVP'd yes the first time around. I wouldn't normally go into that much detail for a guest, but if this is family and otherwise important people, they would probably appreciate and understand better if you explained the conundrum. They may still be disappointed, but if they're reasonable people they'd at least go, "Yeah, that sucks, Heather, but I understand."
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LanaKane · on October 23, 2017 at 4:20 PM
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I don't think it would be rude at all. Your venue can only hold so many guests. This means only the MVPs will be invited to attend and they have to understand this. If they are offended, let them be.
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