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Maricarmen
Expert September 2019

Guest list issues

Maricarmen, on August 16, 2019 at 11:01 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 35

A little long. Sorry to put drama out there but I need to know other peoples point of view. Back story to this. My FBIL’s gf/mother of his 2 daughters doesn’t like my FH’s family idk why. They have helped them a lot over the time they have been together 12years ( same as my FH and I). She is...
A little long. Sorry to put drama out there but I need to know other peoples point of view. Back story to this. My FBIL’s gf/mother of his 2 daughters doesn’t like my FH’s family idk why. They have helped them a lot over the time they have been together 12years ( same as my FH and I). She is extremely rude and we literally see her twice a year. I get along so well with my FH family, I love them. Everyone sees how she is. Never lets FBIL come to family events and gatherings. Well my FBIL never talks to her about how rude she is to his mom or anything. Well obviously they are extremely close to HER family. Her family too is extremely rude and we just never have conversations other than hello when we see them at kids bday parties. Well FBIL is Best man. She won’t let him take part in bachelor party which okay fine we kind of expected it because we know how she is. Now she sends me this text. We don’t talk to her family at all. We see her mom once a year. At nieces bday party. Niece is going to be a page girl. She will hold a sign down the aisle. Honestly we just don’t want her mom there at all. They are rude to my future family but now I think he might not let my FBIL be part of the wedding. Was I wrong?

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  • C
    Devoted June 2019
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    Wow. Just wow. I don’t even know what else to say. If she follows through on not going, you’re better off for it....don’t spend another brain cell on it. And if it means FBIL doesn’t go, well, he’ll have to live w/ that. You’ll have a fabulous day either way!!!
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  • Kelsey
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    I agree with all the PP. You handled this so much better than I would have!
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  • Andrea
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    I agree with all previous poster friends, you handled this situation very well. I would have been tempted to be very petty and give a snarky response back, or something. It's sad what people will resort to when they don't get their way. Talk about manipulation. Honestly, if she just doesn't show up, it's for the absolute best. I'll feel bad for you if little niece can't be a page girl, but her momma is not being nice!! LOL! And you don't need any tension or stress on your special wedding day! All the best to youSmiley heart

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  • Samantha
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    You handled this with much more grace than I would have.
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  • Maricarmen
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    Thank you!!!
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    We have a huge, close family and a lot of very long-term marriages. I know my siblings' in-laws' families pretty well, as we've been together for a lot of extended family events (and, unfortunately, a lot of funerals) over the years. Even in that environment, NONE of my in-laws parents would expect to be invited to our daughter's wedding.... That's just weird. Based on what you've shared, your sister-in-law has a history of being rude and disrespectful. It sounds like this is just another example. You've politely declined her request. Now, she's free to choose how she responds. If she doesn't come, it sounds like your day just got a LOT less stressful! Good luck! Smiley heart

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  • Laura
    Expert September 2019
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    You definitely were not in the wrong at all! She has some nerve to even ask that! She came off very rude.

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  • Diana
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    WOW!!! Just WOW!!! I agree with everyone else. You handled the situation way way better than I would have!! You go sweetie!!! Your not wrong at all!!! She was!!! I’m so so sorry you have to deal with this!!!
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  • Concetta
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    First of all, that is RUDE that she even asked that of you! rude to bring the child into it... if she wants to hang out with the kids they can do it another day but you were kind enough to even let her mom see them at the ceremony. NO do not let them wear you down girl!

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  • Maricarmen
    Expert September 2019
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    Thank you! I’m just patiently waiting for their RSVP which at this point I don’t think we will get it!
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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    What gives her any right, its YOUR wedding day. she is your FSIL but her family is not your family. That is freaking nuts! I would love to hear any follow up on this situation as you handled this very well. I wouldn't have been so polite so major kudos to you!

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  • Nicole
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    Wow that's so entitled. You are not in the wrong. Put your foot down. There is no reason she should expect her mother to get a place at your wedding.

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  • Maricarmen
    Expert September 2019
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    You won’t believe this happened on Friday and I just received a text this morning from her again!!! I will make a post lol it’s so long!
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  • Lauren
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    She’s got some nerve!!! This makes my blood boil! My fiancé’s brother’s wife texted me telling me to choose wisely who I want to be at MY wedding because she will fist fight with her husband’s baby mama at our wedding!!! Why do people feel so entitled?!
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  • Maricarmen
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    Wow!!! I’m sorry that you’re going through drama too!! I wish I knew why people feel so entitled!!
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