Guest List Help

I had 80 guests on our list for just my family (68 attended), he had 112 for his family and we had over 100 friends. I cut down my list by asking if I had seen or talked to them in the last 5 years. Weddings don't have to be family reunions. Husband didn't really cut down his list. Most of the invites were just out of obligation 75 of his 112 attended.

So together we have 175 and most of his family he invited he didn't know their last names.... For me it was who he thought was important enough to be there just so he felt his family was included because alone my family is most of the guest list as I have a big immediate family.

Welcome to the WeddingWire community, Jessica!

Creating your guest list can definitely be one of the hardest parts of planning a wedding. These WeddingWire articles have some great tips about building a guest list, including how to handle families -

How to Make a Wedding Guest List

The Wedding Guest List: Who Makes the Cut?

As mentioned in these articles, you and your FS need to figure out where to cut family off. Some would often do so at first cousins, however, it would change from family to family. If you were to adopt this approach, where would this leave you numbers wise?

We could cut his off at first cousins, but I have TONS of first cousins. I'm thinking of cutting it off at people I haven't talked to in over a year? With this I could probably narrow it down to like 60-65 people. And I know that just because they're invited doesn't mean they'll come...but there are A LOT of people that would be offended if they didn't get an invite.

Of these people you feel will get offended, would you have seen many of them in the past year?
If not, maybe you should make an exception and still send an invitation to them to keep the peace and make life easier on yourself!