Guest List Drama

Lol. I would NEVER ask someone if I was invited to their wedding, even if I thought I should have been. I don't get people....

To be honest, I wasn't expecting this kind of behavior.

I guess that I should have.

On a positive note, wedding invites started arriving in the mail on Tuesday of this week.

We already have 20% who have RSVP'd

I FEEL THIS SO MUCH!
we are having a really small 40 person wedding (that’s including us!) and we’ve had sooooo many people say things like this 🙄 Sorry not sorry!

When he kept on going and tried to shame me for not inviting him, it was all I could to to hold back from writing something snarky back.

Alas, I had to remind myself that their behavior was a reflection upon themselves and not me.

I am having issues with that already and we haven't even sent out save the dates. It is vary frustrating because people you haven't seen in years and don't really even speak to expected to be invited. I want my wedding to be filled with people I am close with or have seen recently. Not some one I spoke to one time out of my whole life, and never see, because I feel like i don't know them. Its your wedding and you should be able to fill it with who you want.

View Quoted Comment

Oh I already lost that battle.

My arm was twisted to include all my step brothers and sister.s and their partners.. even though I was never invited to any of their weddings.

Oh and some of them are being pissy that we didn't invite their kids as well.

"I'm sorry, but your 13 year old angsty child who never takes their nose out of their phone doesn't need to come to my wedding"

View Quoted Comment I lost this battle too. I’ve made my peace with it (for the most part).

View Quoted Comment

Lol I made peace with it by the way of "We are having an open bar. Leave your kids at home and have an adult evening for cripes sake!"

"Oh and disco. There WILL be disco so bring your dancing booties!"

View Quoted Comment

That is so frustrating! Everyone keeps telling me that if you invite this person then you have to invite that person. But what if I never even met that person but I am super close to the other. There has been a lot of that with my FH side and a few on mine. But we are both trying our hardest to stand our ground on who should be there and who to leave off the list.

View Quoted Comment Ha! We are having 16+ but no kids besides the wedding party. I made my peace on inviting a bunch of ppl I have never met from my FH side - nor has he seen in like 10 yrs. disco & dancing booties sounds fun!

View Quoted Comment I’m with you on this! I’ve been able to stand my ground more on my side more than my FH side - probably bc I talk to a lot of my family pretty regularly, so the ones that I don’t talk to I don’t feel bad. My FH doesn’t talk to most of his family, but they all live super far, so sometimes they come in waves for big events like weddings.

View Quoted Comment

My FH had to put his foot down when him mom was demanding that we invite her brother... the very homophobic one who thinks that gays ought to be burned... yeah she was upset that we weren't going to invite him.

His mom: "What is the rest fo the family gonna think?"

FH: "They will think that it is obviously smart to NOT invite someone who doesn't support the wedding couple to the biggest day of their lives"

She finally gave up

View Quoted Comment Good for him! And exactly!!!!

Wow- I can't imagine asking someone why I wasn't invited to their wedding or demanding an invitation! Goodness.. heres to hoping the last 2.5 months are drama free!

Ugh, people feel so entitled. That's incredibly rude of them to demand an invitation!

“Your wedding was supposed to help me believe in true love” what kinda wacky guilt trip is that

I was lucky where those that weren't invited didn't really ask about it. However, my mother had more trouble with it and kept asking to include friends and extended family that had no relationship with my husband.

View Quoted Comment

Yeah, I kinda bit my tongue on this one.

It's so awkward and uncomfortable when people do that, I can't imagine. The only time I've asked about a wedding invitation was when I'd been invited to the bridal shower but then we didn't get an invitation. Turns out it'd been returned to sender because they forgot to put our apartment number on it.

We have an RSVP being held hostage until we can say for certain if their son can bring his girlfriend.

View Quoted Comment

You have GOT to be kidding me. AN RSVP is being held hostage?

I'd be like "so sorry that y'all cannot make it"