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Guest List- Bride vs Mom

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Sara, on July 30, 2017 at 1:26 PM

I'm having an issue with my mother and my guest list. She has a group of friends that she would like to invite, the "Girl Scout Moms". I was in Girl Scouts with their daughters almost 20 years ago, and while I lost touch with the daughters she stayed close with the moms. There are 2-3 moms I could see inviting, but I do not want all the moms there- I couldn't even remember half of their names! I don't even like half of them, and I'm trying to keep my wedding small. Small as in less than 100 people. I'm not even inviting a lot of my friends because I'm more focused on family.

My dad is paying for the wedding (my parents are divorced and my mom is not contributing) and he is on my side, but my mom was close to tears when I told her I don't want to invite all of her friends.

Help! What do I do?? Do I invite all these moms just to make my mother happy? Do I add extra people I don't want to my guest list so make my mom happy?

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Master July 2017
A. L. · on July 30, 2017 at 7:28 PM
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This is one of the reasons that we waited until we could pay for our wedding ourselves. We really only wanted the most special people in our lives there.
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Jacqui · on July 30, 2017 at 7:35 PM
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I understand your perspective, if you wanted more people, you would want more of your friends rather than hers. That being said, I would consider letting your mom have this, these mom's may have been dreaming together of their daughters weddings for 20+ years and that may be why it is so important for her to have them there.
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Master May 2018
J. Clo · on July 30, 2017 at 7:52 PM
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Good to add that they are divorced OP. I would definitely give her a seat allocation and let her determine from there who she wants to invite.
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FutureMrsN · on July 30, 2017 at 7:57 PM
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This would be a no for me. She can have the 2-3 (I don't think the all or nothing rule applies here, as OP doesn't interact with them and they aren't family) and be done with it. It is not a social engagement for her, it is your wedding.
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WED18 · on July 30, 2017 at 8:04 PM
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I'm sorry OP, us moms get out of control sometimes. Tell mom how many guests she gets to invite and stick to it. You won't be able to please everyone all the time, so learn to stick to your guns, it will be okay.
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Master July 2017
Erin Wood · on July 30, 2017 at 8:04 PM
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I think you need to sit down and try to compromise with her. You said you would invite some of them. To throw a fit because you won't invite all of them is crazy. How many are there and then husbands too. That can add up quickly.
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