Guest etiquette

It's odd but you can't go back in time and change it. People are weird

Don't worry about the guest book, I wish I had skipped it. We had 50-ish people there and I bet 20 or so signed. I think it is odd to not bring something but a gift is not an expectation. We have a friend who couldn't make it and we keeps saying he is gonna stop over with it. We were married two years ago this fall, lol!!!

We also invited friends who are VERY well off - he is a partner in a law firm and they brought nothing. It was kinda odd but oh well!

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I agree. I personally don't feel right attending without at least a card to give!

I will usually show up empty handed if they have a registry/cash fund online as its less stuff to carry/keep track of for the couple.

I never bring gifts of any kind, but always send one before the wedding, or shortly after ( if they are moving in to a new place right after ). . . . But more often than not, I do not sign the guest book. Or any poster, board, whatever. Most people I know never look at their guest book. After a while they throw it out, saying they have never bothered. What is the point. The hosts have a guest list, a gift list and photos I will be in. Since I never valued signatures in any yearbook or similar thing, no point to wedding guest books that I can see. Cards are not necessary for anything at a wedding. I write people letters. I do not buy and send cards. And they have never been a necessary part of weddings, or described as proper manners. Just that gifts have a name card, you give a gift according to the strength of your relationship and your budget, and return any requested card or other way to indicate you are coming or not. Greeting cards are not ever a necessary thing in etiquette.

I'd feel SO weird going to a wedding and not giving a gift to the couple, unless we brought cash in card. We typically sign guest books unless they are in a weird place and we don't see it or the line to sign is super long. But yes, I think not even giving a card is odd.

Id personally feel rude if I didn't give a gift as a guest. But some people I guess think their presence is enough aha. I mean technically we invite people not expecting a gift anyway but it's a nice gesture