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Super May 2019

Guest etiquette

JENNIFER, on August 11, 2019 at 3:03 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 27
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When attending a wedding it’s not expected to bring a gift. But is it weird if someone didn’t sign the guestbook or even give a wedding congratulations card ?

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Latest activity by Melle, on August 12, 2019 at 11:54 AM
  • D
    Super July 2020
    D ·
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    Yeah that's weird. Maybe you'll get one later? I think I've forgotten to sign the guest book before.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Plenty of people forget to sign the guest book and cards also aren’t a necessity.
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  • Futuremrsk
    VIP August 2019
    Futuremrsk ·
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    People forget to sign guest books, I know I've been guilty of this! Also like pp said, cards aren't a necessity either. In some circles people dont give cards.
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  • Sarah
    Devoted November 2021
    Sarah ·
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    It's important to put the guest book in an obvious location where everyone will definitely see it. Other than that, it's totally normal to not bring anything.
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  • Chloe
    Devoted October 2020
    Chloe ·
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    I’ve forgotten to sign the guestbook before, so it probably wasn’t a snub of any sort. But what you are saying is that they did not give you a gift off of the registry or a card with money at the reception? That seems a little odd to me..
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  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Aliciabilly2019 ·
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    No one has to get anyone anything technically, but normally people do do the gift or card sometimes just a card no money depending on there financial situation etc. But yea i find it weird no card at the least and not to sign guest book thats why im having my dj do a reminder before we come in from finishing pics to please remember to sign guest book etc . It could be as simple as they forgot it at home and didnt want to drive all the way back and will send it out soon . Or just didnt have thr money to get you anything but its never required for any event bday party etc that people have to get others gifts cards money etc...
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  • Tilar Fifield
    Devoted August 2019
    Tilar Fifield ·
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    Personally I feel it’s rude to show up empty handed, whether you bring a card or a gift is their choice. Not that I would expect that from a guest, but for me I would never show up without something. Especially after I know how hard the couple has probably worked to throw a wedding and how much money they have spent for me to be there. But people forget to sign the guestbook all the time! I wouldn’t take that as a personal dig or anything.
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  • Shawanda
    Just Said Yes August 2019
    Shawanda ·
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    Not to assume, but my husband and I have attended weddings where we felt our gift was actually given as us being there. Especially if we traveled a very long way!
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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    I think everyone should bring a card giving well wishes. If you choose to add a gift, great. I had one person who I was guilted into inviting to my wedding and of course she was the only person that didn't give a gift. Okay, fine. I have no issue with that. She didn't bring a card either. I do have an issue with that. She also had a bad attitude at my wedding and bummed a 3 hour ride back with near strangers.

    Every circle is different. No one brings physical gifts to weddings where I'm from. Of course a card is not a necessity. I never go anywhere empty handed. I wouldn't go to someone's house empty handed. A wedding is no different.
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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
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    I don’t think it’s a big deal. People are there to celebrate with you and that’s what’s most important.
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  • JENNIFER
    Super May 2019
    JENNIFER ·
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    My photos I got from the photographer there’s a picture of her right next to the guest book and the lady she came with was also in the picture and she was signing it.
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  • JENNIFER
    Super May 2019
    JENNIFER ·
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    She works with my husband and she told him he forgot to bring the card but she never gave him one. He didn’t ask her about it she was the one who mentioned it to him
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  • JENNIFER
    Super May 2019
    JENNIFER ·
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    I’m not expecting a gift I don’t believe you NEED to give a gift. The gift is everyone celebrating but a card should be at least given. You can get one for a dollar and not sign the guestbook, it’s weird to me.
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  • JENNIFER
    Super May 2019
    JENNIFER ·
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    I’m not expecting a gift but yes at the reception we had the guest book right when you walk in. The photographer took a picture of people signing and and she’s in one standing right next to it while the person she came with signed it. I think just a congratulations wedding card no gift should always been given
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  • JENNIFER
    Super May 2019
    JENNIFER ·
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    Yes I feel the same as you. I would never show up empty handed and I don’t expect a gift. I feel like it’s a dig because she was pictured at the guestbook and her guest signed it. Then my husband told me she mentions it to him about forgetting to bring the card but I’m guessing she never gave it to him cause he never should me one
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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
    Courtney ·
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    I think it’s rude to not bring a card. I personally always bring a gift too - it doesn’t have to be expensive but just something to say congrats. I don’t find it weird/rude to not sign a guest book. In my mind they’re for fun and it’s nice is most people sign them but people often forget.
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  • Jennifer
    VIP October 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    IMO: Not doing Any of these things feels a bit off/odd.
    I know my FH has not signed guest books( I do them lol) and cards or a gift aren’t always a thing, however to do none just feels weird to me.
    Is this someone close or maybe an acquaintance?
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  • Jess
    Expert October 2019
    Jess ·
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    I think it’s weird to not bring anything. The guest book is a little bit of a disappointment but there’s so much going on the day of a wedding that it’s not uncommon for people to get side tracked and forget to sign it!
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  • JENNIFER
    Super May 2019
    JENNIFER ·
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    I think a card to me is enough but I always bring a gift but don’t expect it. She was standing at the guest book table and didn’t sign. But watched other people as they did.
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  • JENNIFER
    Super May 2019
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    It’s my husbands co worker. She was the only one of his coworker who didn’t sign. The lady she came with signed it and she stood right next to her and and didn’t. That just seemed odd to me.
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