Guest count dropping quick

I invited 200 but it looked like only 125 will be coming. But i struggle with anxiery and regretted the big wedding thing so it's a blessing to me.

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Yes, we bounce back and forth too. I feel like I would have done something a little less formal if I knew so many people would RSVP no. At least we will be able to say we gave it our all?

Consider it a blessing in disguise, it will be much easier for you to talk to everyone, people will have more room to spread out. Just put less people per table. 10 is a good number more than that can be crowded.
We invited 164, 125 RSVP yes, 116 showed for our wedding. It is very common.

We invited 149 and have 89 coming

I invited about 35 and we're ending up with 28. It's the perfect size party for us I think.

I invited 12 and 12 came, It was perfect.

I invited 145 people and 88 will be there ! Wedding is in a week so we will see how it goes I think 88 is plenty..

I invited 149. Right now I have 71 years and 60 nos still waiting on 20. I was upset, more over the people who I expected to be there and aren't coming than I am the actual number of nos I'm receiving.

My FH and I have just been discussing upgrading the food to more options.

If its a destination wedding or you have a lot of OOTs I can imagine this may happen. Hope for the best and don't worry about who shows. \

I would be 100% happy as long as my BM and parents ( and FH!) are there\

we are inviting 175 and our min is 125, do you have a min guest count you need to have?

90 is still a lot of people. We’re only inviting 90 to our wedding!

Our wedding had 60 people and it was phenomenal. Everyone danced, and had a blast with the photo booth, I still have people telling me how much fun they had. If you have a good DJ and stay upbeat, you and your guests are going to have a good time.

You can always use the money you were going to use for guest meals for something else. Like a photobooth, or upgraded food/alcohol, caricture artist, etc.

We had 59 I think and it was the perfect number. We invited 111 but it was destination so we were only expecting about half. The dance floor was busy all night and we were able to talk to everyone during cocktail hour! It never felt “empty” in the room at all. I loved every second of it!

I understand how you feel OP! I was upset earlier this week over the same thing. We invited 155 guests and only just hit 90 people. I still have a few RSVPs outstanding still. But at the end of the day, I am still marrying my best friend and 90 guests is still a lot of people! You will still have a wonderful wedding. Don’t let a number drag you down!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has felt this way!

I know at the end of the day I am marrying FH and really the most important people will be there standing by us. I guess I was just taking it too personally that people were RSVP no instead of thinking about how greatful I should be for all those that said yes and have the ability to celebrate with us. Thank you so much everyone! It is so helpful to have supportive opinions and your personal experiences! It keeps everything in perspective.

The best weddings I've ever been to (the most fun) had less people. I think it's always a more "party" vibe when all of the guests know the bride and/or groom very well. It's actually for this reason that we are keeping a small list. I am thinking I'll have about 80 and that number makes me so happy.

We invited 180, and will have 125 attending - which was the number we originally wanted to invite

We had a semi-DW over Christmas weekend. We invited 70 but expected 50 and 40 came. It was a great size. We were able to visit with everyone and people had a great time dancing to the live band, using the photo booth, and enjoying smores around the firepit. I prefer a smaller guest list for this reason.

Did people not RSVP? Why would they say yes before they knew how much it cost? I don't understand. Don't you have to give a number to your caterer?

I stress about that sometimes too but then think of the money we will save 😂

We invited 87 and had 71, 73 including the 2 of us. We thought is was the perfect size. We were prepared to host everyone we invited but we knew the number would be around 75 since some family lives out of the country and some across the country. I also invited singles with guests but those not in relationships all chose to come solo. They all knew people there anyway but we wanted them to have the option. We would have preferred a smaller wedding but my husband’s family is very large and we are close with them.