Guest bringing someone other than name on invite

She should have asked you, but I would let this one go.

If you already budgeted for two people, why does it matter? I personally don't see this as a big deal, she isn't bringing some random dude or friend that you don't know. It's her mother.

I get that it was supposed to be her husband, but maybe he couldn't make it and she didn't want to travel alone. I remember when I was far into my pregnancy, my mother and FH wouldn't let me leave the house without someone just in case my water broke, etc. They were right. My water ended up breaking while I was alone and I was scared and screwed.

Sure she could've mentioned it, but I don't think she's rude because she didn't. I think you're overreacting.

I also think it is rude, I have had some of my guests add plus ones without asking, while I would of preferred they ask first its not something I am going to stress about, my venue can hold 150 people and I only invited 115. I have had declines and I am not paying per plate for the catering so I felt no need for the drama. If it isn't worth the added drama for you I would let it go and save the energy.

Personally I hate the idea of people bringing substitutes other than who was actually invited. To me it isn't about the head count but more of Who i actually want there. So I would find it very rude and tell whomever it is there aren't substitutions. HOWEVER, for this situation being that she is far along in her pregnancy and she is just bringing her mom not some random friend I would be okay with that. The way I see it she really didn't want to miss your wedding but couldn't go alone so she asked her mom.

Not a big deal and I wouldn't quite call it rude.

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Unless mom is known to party hard and end the night swinging from the chandelier, I don't see the issue. Yes, you addressed the invite specifically to her and her spouse, but its not upping your guest count, and its not like its a child vs. an adult. As PP mentioned, maybe hubby wasn't available or simply didn't feel like attending and didn't want his pregnant wife going by herself. Now, if it was RSVP'd for mom AND hubby and herself, then it'd be rude.

At least it's her mom, and maybe she needs the companion because of her pregnancy? But I definitely would have asked first. I'd be annoyed too.

Ooo at @Sara&L I totally didn't think about baby brain! Eh now I feel bad about getting annoyed. I guess I was just venting more than anything. I'm not planning on bringing it up or anything.

Not as much of a big deal as it is inconsiderate. But with that being said, deep breath, and let the pregnant girl bring her mom instead of her husband.

@jillian j. Well.... she might.... she's ended the night doing the splits at the bar once... but I think with her pregnant daughter there she'll behave, hopefully.

And as far as water breaking, I don't think it will, at least I hope not. She's at 6 or so months. I know it can happen. So I get not wanting to be alone.

I don't know why this is such a huge deal. It's her mom ffs. Not like she's bringing another dude. You planned for 2, you're getting 2. My friend's bf was on the invite but they have a pretty rocky relationship (only together for baby) and she decided to bring her brother instead. I said ok. Wtf ever.

Meh, no biggy. What's actually rude is when the guests ask if they can bring a complete stranger to your wedding when they don't have a plus one. That's a fun one

Mustlovecats for the win.

No. A guest list isn't bodies; it's humans you want to have attend. Not interchangeable humans.

What Celia said.

I don't think it's the fact that she's bringing her mom. Like PP have said, they obviously accounted for two spots so that is also not a problem. But in principle it's rude to not asking imagine if someone put down a name of someone you never met etc.

Yeah this is rude. I get that you were already planning to accommodate 2 people but they were two people you specifically wanted there. Subbing in a date is rude. But still, I would just let it go and let the mom come. Not worth causing a problem.

Yeah, it's some poor manners on her part. She should have at least called and said she knew her husbands' name was on the invite but that she would like to bring her mother instead. This is not a hill to die on though. I wouldn't say a word, because that will reflect badly on you. Be gracious and let it roll. I could understand making a deal out of it if it was a friend bringing an ex or something, but this is not a case I'd worry about.

I sent an invite to a friend and his wife and a separate one to his mom by herself. She's not married and not seeing anyone. They sent it back with a note saying she's bringing a friend. We don't know who this person is! Some people just have no manners I guess.

Rude!