Guest bringing someone other than name on invite

Rude! If you invited him by name, she doesn't get to choose a substitute lol.

I wouldn't see it as a big deal since you planned for two anyways.

Yup! Rude AF! But most people honestly jump at the chance for a free party free food free drinks and all manners go out the window!

I'm dreading people showing up uninvited as we are having a small intimate wedding and not everyone we know is invited... however they know some of our guest who are in fact invited and might want to "tag along" ugh crossing my fingers that doesn't happen!

I would be mortified to show up at a wedding that I personally didn't receive an invitation for!

How can people do that?

Honestly, I would have asked you first before doing that, but it's not a huge deal. It's not like she RSVP'd for more people than you invited. Maybe hubby already has plans and she didn't want to go solo? A friend of mine's fiancé couldn't get work off, so she's bringing her sister instead (I've only met sister once). But I really don't care. I want her to enjoy my wedding, and she won't know many other people there so her sister will make her more comfortable.

Agreed @Portlandia it's not a huge issue. I'm certainly not going to say "no you can't bring your mom!" But yeah, I personally would have asked first too.

It's not a play. It's your wedding. If her husband can't attend she can't bring a substitute. Rude as hell. I'd call her up and say, "I'm so happy you'll be attending the wedding but unfortunately the invite was for you and your husband and we are unable to accommodate your mom." I had a friend of a friend wanting to come in place of my friends husband when she found out we were getting married however we are not close to this person so that's why she was not invited and I told my friend flat out that unfortunately the invite is only for her and her husband and we're not able to accommodate additional guests and she understood.

@MrsWrs yeah, there's no need to cause a rift over this. She and I have been friends for a while and I guess that's why I was surprised when I opened the envelope that she hadn't texted me about it beforehand. If she would have, I would have told her "sure, no big deal!" But the fact that she just assumed I'd be ok with it is kind of annoying.

I agree with MrsWrs- as long as you can accommodate her Mom and since she's pregnant a heads up would've been nice but I'd let it go. It's her Mom not some random person. I wouldn't say anything to her about it. Not worth any more stress or drama than you may be carrying from wedding stuff. All the best!

Well, she didn't add to your count and she gave you the heads up via the rsvp, but yes I think it's rude. I'm only giving date invites to those in relationships (no plus ones) so if someone brings a person who isn't their significant other, I would be ticked off. She should have texted but I wouldn't say anything. Bigger fires to fight.

The polite thing to do would have been to ask. It is not about the number of guests, but about who the guests are.

You already budgeted for two guests from her household, and there are two coming. No big deal.

Does it really matter? You already planned for her and a guest does it matter who her guest is?

If she is not bringing her husband, I don't think it is rude at all. You planned on two guest and you will still be getting 2 guest. I wouldn't stress much about it

I don't see the big deal at all. This is happening for my wedding day as well. I don't really even find it rude. Maybe a little disappointing.

I budgeted for two people it doesn't matter what 2 people come. I think your making a big deal out of nothing.

Maybe the husband couldn't make it due to work obligations or some other obligation. And she didn't want to be alone while really pregnant. And maybe she also didn't want to miss your wedding so what could she do? I don't know. I wouldn't sweat it.

OP, she may also have figured that you are way too busy leading up to the wedding and she didn't want to bother you.

I guess I may be in the minority here. Unless you are planning a lot of couple activity at the wedding or reception I don't why it's such a big deal. If you budgeted for two people and she's bringing her mom instead of husband I don't see why there is a problem. I wouldn't even ask her why she's bringing her mom instead. Its a minor detail. If this is the only thing that goes wrong on the wedding day you're blessed. You know the mom so let it go.

I think it's rude that she did that, she should have asked first. However, if she had asked me I would have said yes since I was planning for two anyway. So I wouldn't do anything. I feel like it's not worth the drama.

She probably should have asked if it was fine but I agree to just let it go. Once I got far along, both my husband and mother didn't want me out by myself for too long just in case.

I think this is a case where you need to be a good friend. She is pretty far along in her pregnancy and she is bringing her mom. Not some random friend that you've never met. What would happen if she was to suddenly go into labor at your wedding? Would you leave your wedding to assist her to the hospital? Be a good friend, let her bring her mom, and enjoy your day.