Guest Added 2 Children to RSVP

Hahah. I just read your update.

I would bet $100 that they are just doing this to make some kind of point (whatever it is). I think you and FH need to call them and talk with them directly. She cannot be calling the entire phone tree and stirring up drama.

They need to understand that they are being INCREDIBLY rude.

People are just unbelievable. Good response; much more polite than I would be, (or at least what I'd think, lol)

I'm sorry it played out that way, but I think you've done all you need to. If they bring a babysitter and their kids to the ceremony, it's out of your hands.

I wouldn't address it any further. If they want to bring someone to the church to entertain the kids, I think that isn't a big deal.

You handled it with a tremendous amount of grace.

I am pretty worried about this because we included bridal party kids (all family) but we also included one kid who is our friends'. Explaining that probably won't go over well!

They are being unbelievably rude, and your email was perfect, but I agree that it's now out of your hands. Anyone can walk into the church and watch the ceremony. There is really no way to stop the kids from coming. At least she is talking about bringing a nanny. Unless maybe you can get FMIL on your side to talk to her. Why doesn't she just stay home if she can't leave her kids!? Ugg.

My mother was remarried 8 yrs ago and ran into a similar situation with her half-sister who lives out of state. When my mother confronted her (politely) about not bringing her 4 young children, the sister pitched a huge fit and in the end boycotted the wedding, along with the other 3 half siblings that live in that state and even my mom's father and step-mother.

I'm so afraid of this happening to me. We chose to do a four hour open bar, and no children's meals. I did put on my wedding website, " Due to limited space, and open bar this will be an adults only wedding and reception". I got insert cards for the wedding website to put in with the invitations. The only children that will be there are my 15 year old daughter, and my two year old niece, who is my flower girl.

Same thing happened to me. UGH PEOPLE!

Just had the same thing happen. There are reasons we address the invitations the way we do. There are reasons we write the things we do, because that is how we want them to be on our day. We had originally planned on having the kids there. It was another 40 people/plates. It was for our budget and we wanted people to have a night out. We have 2 children and they are in the wedding and will be the only ones there and will leave early after they celebrate with us. My cousin crossed out the number of seats reserved for her, added another and wrote across the Reply card that she would need another seat but not a meal for her son. I truthfully didn't expect her to come due to her being from 2000 miles away. It is plain as day that it is an adult event. Before we even got the reply card, she booked the flights for them.

It really infuriates me that people feel entitled to bring others when it's not their event. I know I will have a very similar problem coming up soon with some out of state family. I'm sorry she's turning this into a huge deal! It does sound like she's trying to make some kind of point. I think they way you handled it was great and hope the issue can be resolved.

I don't understand grown adults acting like this. I do not have anyone we invited who is acting this way. It's hard when it's family, as you can't choose them!

Sorry to hear she didn't respond well and is making a big deal out of it. People should either decide they can or cannot attend based upon their circumstances. Why say you're coming and force your kids to be there when you're clearly going to be sulking the whole time? So strange.

I truly trust nobody pulls this crap with me! The main children will be my 5 year old little girl who's the blossom young lady and my sister's 8 year old child who's the ring conveyor. Also, they aren't notwithstanding staying for the entire thing. After the service, they are going inside my fmil home with a caretaker and their cousins for amusements and a pizza party for whatever is left of the night. No children at my wedding!

On the off chance that it's a bother and somebody truly needs to come, I may get a couple more sitters and tell individuals they can go out, that way they arrive yet not at the real wedding.

Thank you

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